esstea Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) Probably the most common title in this section but LET ME EXPLAIN! For those of you pondering on the thought of "getting back together" with your ex, I thought I would shed some light (hopefully) by sharing my experience with getting back with an ex. Now prior to our reconciliation, I thought my ex was a complete douche. Literally the scum that walked in this planet. We didn't end on good terms. It took me a full year to get over him and that year was probably the worst year of my life. He was my most serious relationship, someone I almost consider my first love just because we experienced so much together, DID so much together. I was crazy in love with him and blind sighted by everything else in-between. I suppose one of our major hamartia's was that we fought a lot. We fought about the dumbest things sometimes but it would just snowball into a bigger fight. He lied about some major things aswell, and took me for granted... all that crap. Half of this I realized months after we've broken up and not while we were dating (SEE??! It's true! Love is blind, ha.) Anyways, fast forward two years later. We get acquainted again and decide to hang out. One thing leads to another and here we are falling madly in love with eachother all over again. Now of course prior to getting back together we've had several serious conversations about our issues in the past about why we fought a lot and we did try and diffuse those problems. Till this day I'm still dating him (it's been about 4 months now) and we're still working at it. There are times however where I do feel like it's so easy for us to slip into the people we were when we were dating eachother. I remember hearing about this term called "revertigo", I think it was on How I Met Your Mother (lol) but basically it means when you hang out with a person from your past, they can't help but bring that person you were with them, back. It's never necessarily a bad thing but in this case, I suppose he brings out a side of me that loves to argue. We've been dating for 4 months and we're slowly beginning to argue about little things and it does have me worried, and as much as I don't want to argue, it just happens. My point is.... maybe sometimes it's not just the problems, but it really just comes down to compatibility. Not saying me and my boyfriend aren't compatible but.. I was just surprised how easy it is for people to slip back into the same patterns, even if you KNOW you want to do better. I'm going to work and try so hard to make my relationship work with him but it is going to require some freakin man of steel effort. And I myself am still not sure if it's simply compatibility but hell I'll give it a shot. Love or nothing, right? Good luck to you all! Edited January 31, 2013 by esstea
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