Corgi Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I have had an interest in a guy who works at the bank I go to. At first meeting, we didn't talk at all but I was curious about a bruise on his face and as I was about to leave I asked him if he got clocked in the face. He grinned and winked at me. the next week, he seemed extremely happy to talk to me commenting about my uni shirt, asking me lots of questions, asked me who I was seeing on thanksgiving, smiling constantly and we had that awkward moment when you stare into each others eyes for a long time but no one is saying anything -- I got shy when I realized what we were doing and saw he hadn't gotten to my deposit yet and I sorta poked it because I didn't know what to do and he was like "oh yeah sorry" (why did I do that!?). third time I come in a few weeks later, I'm with a friend and we are chatting about movies in line. I looked over and saw he was smiling at me while he was with another customer, I caught him doing this three times -- I even directed some of my convo at him when I looked over and he just had a huge smile. When we got to talk, he commented immediately about the movies I mentioned, agreeing with me and again, another long conversation with family, birthday, school, favorite hobbies and yes, the staring and the smiling. I wanted so badly to ask him out, my friend even said "that guy really likes you, I guarantee you he is single -- you should ask him out." So, I came in recently only a week or so later we repeat our process of flirting and talking, he asked about my necklace, by the end of this one I muster up the courage with a line of people behind me and I asked him if he wanted to do something later that night since we both got off at the same time. He told me he had a lot of homework to do (ouch..) but he immediately wrote down his number as an "IOU". I was thrilled to have had his number but at the same time I feel I was turned down. He does work two jobs (bank and at a ski shop) and goes to uni (classes just started a week ago). I have since texted him, he seemed rather thrilled to have heard from me, he replied right away, and told him I'm skydiving again this weekend and if he wanted to come and he's down (we like action sports). This will be his first skydive. We haven't really texted much else, myself included. I really want to get to know him and text him more, but at the same time I feel like he gave me his number to be nice. I'm glad to be able to spend time with him out of his glass box and away from a customer/employee environment so I can get to know him better. Any advice? Am I worrying too much like a nervous-nelly?
will1988 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I have had an interest in a guy who works at the bank I go to. At first meeting, we didn't talk at all but I was curious about a bruise on his face and as I was about to leave I asked him if he got clocked in the face. He grinned and winked at me. the next week, he seemed extremely happy to talk to me commenting about my uni shirt, asking me lots of questions, asked me who I was seeing on thanksgiving, smiling constantly and we had that awkward moment when you stare into each others eyes for a long time but no one is saying anything -- I got shy when I realized what we were doing and saw he hadn't gotten to my deposit yet and I sorta poked it because I didn't know what to do and he was like "oh yeah sorry" (why did I do that!?). third time I come in a few weeks later, I'm with a friend and we are chatting about movies in line. I looked over and saw he was smiling at me while he was with another customer, I caught him doing this three times -- I even directed some of my convo at him when I looked over and he just had a huge smile. When we got to talk, he commented immediately about the movies I mentioned, agreeing with me and again, another long conversation with family, birthday, school, favorite hobbies and yes, the staring and the smiling. I wanted so badly to ask him out, my friend even said "that guy really likes you, I guarantee you he is single -- you should ask him out." So, I came in recently only a week or so later we repeat our process of flirting and talking, he asked about my necklace, by the end of this one I muster up the courage with a line of people behind me and I asked him if he wanted to do something later that night since we both got off at the same time. He told me he had a lot of homework to do (ouch..) but he immediately wrote down his number as an "IOU". I was thrilled to have had his number but at the same time I feel I was turned down. He does work two jobs (bank and at a ski shop) and goes to uni (classes just started a week ago). I have since texted him, he seemed rather thrilled to have heard from me, he replied right away, and told him I'm skydiving again this weekend and if he wanted to come and he's down (we like action sports). This will be his first skydive. We haven't really texted much else, myself included. I really want to get to know him and text him more, but at the same time I feel like he gave me his number to be nice. I'm glad to be able to spend time with him out of his glass box and away from a customer/employee environment so I can get to know him better. Any advice? Am I worrying too much like a nervous-nelly? You are worrying too much. He seems to like you. I bet he isn't texting you all the time because he doesn't want to come off as needy or clingy... he is trying to play the cool guy. Also he is really busy. So text him some more if you want, and I bet he will respond as soon as he can. Good luck this weekend with him!
Emmms Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 it's refreshing to find a guy who likes to take things slow. good for you. enjoy the time!
Feelin Frisky Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Relax and go with the flow. Don't text unless you're on the hook to. Romance is all about "wanting"--not "having". As soon as the texting bit starts it has changed more to having and that can work against you. No knowing everything is part of the drama of building "want". Knowing everything (by texting and calling too much creates co-dependence and sooner than later ground for contentiousness. If you want to be wanted resist impulse to "have". It's "game". Have a great time together and then build up some new "want" on both party's side.
TouchedByViolet Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I can't remember the last time I went to a bank... I feel like I do most things online, probably why I don't meet anyone lol. Anyways, sounds like he is interested. Be happy and enjoy yourself.
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 This is the problem with us girls asking out men...we begin to worry if he is actually into us or is just going along for a ride... Its too early to tell at this point. I would just take it as it is and begin to worry after two dates or so...
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