crimsoncurrent Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Earlier this week, I posted about my situation. Here's the thread:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/370260-after-nearly-four-years-we-re-finished Well, considering my situation, she doesn't want to talk until a year has passed. However, in the most recent e-mail I received from her, which was over two weeks ago, she said she's moving on. So, if that being said, should I be hoping in a year things might be sensible enough for us to get back together? I've been desperately trying to get that thought out of my head. Sometimes, it's difficult to believe we're not talking anymore. It's been such a bizarre and painful experience. I hope someone might be able to provide some insight to my situation. I would certainly appreciate very much. Thank you.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Earlier this week, I posted about my situation. Here's the thread:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/370260-after-nearly-four-years-we-re-finished Well, considering my situation, she doesn't want to talk until a year has passed. However, in the most recent e-mail I received from her, which was over two weeks ago, she said she's moving on. So, if that being said, should I be hoping in a year things might be sensible enough for us to get back together? I've been desperately trying to get that thought out of my head. Sometimes, it's difficult to believe we're not talking anymore. It's been such a bizarre and painful experience. I hope someone might be able to provide some insight to my situation. I would certainly appreciate very much. Thank you. Same boat I want him to come back... In 6 moths. Praying he will. I ask him and sometimes it's almost like he will then other times its like he doesn't know doesn't wanna talk... Guess who's left to hurt over this? US... Mine isn't really moving on his just busy cause his currently going through floods nearby. If yours is determined to move on that's really risky for you to wait... I think what's best is to think that if they are your soulmate they will eventually come back. If not then they weren't meant to be with you... I'm trying to think that but I still talk to him and I'm always hoping. At times I make the wrong moves by pushing him to come Back tho. Not good 2
Author crimsoncurrent Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Same boat I want him to come back... In 6 moths. Praying he will. I ask him and sometimes it's almost like he will then other times its like he doesn't know doesn't wanna talk... Guess who's left to hurt over this? US... Mine isn't really moving on his just busy cause his currently going through floods nearby. If yours is determined to move on that's really risky for you to wait... I think what's best is to think that if they are your soulmate they will eventually come back. If not then they weren't meant to be with you... I'm trying to think that but I still talk to him and I'm always hoping. At times I make the wrong moves by pushing him to come Back tho. Not good Thank you so much for commenting. I'm really appreciate it. Also, I'm truly sorry for your situation. I agree with everything you said. As for as I know, she's very angry with me right now, and if I even tried to make contact with her, she'll either ignore me, or just reiterate the same painful truth that she's moving on. Unlike your situation, I don't think it's of my best interested to have any contact with her. But, I often was to drive by her house, but if I was to see a car I didn't recognize, I would think she's seeing someone else, and I don't think I could handle that right now. In fact, although I have my fb deactivated, I've told my friends that have her as a buddy on their profile that, if there's anything she posts that they might think would be of my interest, I don't want to know. Even though I miss her dearly, I don't want to know what's going on her life. Again, thanks so much for the response. If things don't work out between you and him, I hope you heal and find happiness and peace.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Does it feel like your living without direction? that's how I feel... Not knowing what's going to happen. Not having control over your future. It really screws your mind up. All I wanna know is. Is he coming back or not... And I can't even get an answer. 1
FailedFirstLove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Thank you so much for commenting. I'm really appreciate it. Also, I'm truly sorry for your situation. I agree with everything you said. As for as I know, she's very angry with me right now, and if I even tried to make contact with her, she'll either ignore me, or just reiterate the same painful truth that she's moving on. Unlike your situation, I don't think it's of my best interested to have any contact with her. But, I often was to drive by her house, but if I was to see a car I didn't recognize, I would think she's seeing someone else, and I don't think I could handle that right now. In fact, although I have my fb deactivated, I've told my friends that have her as a buddy on their profile that, if there's anything she posts that they might think would be of my interest, I don't want to know. Even though I miss her dearly, I don't want to know what's going on her life. Again, thanks so much for the response. If things don't work out between you and him, I hope you heal and find happiness and peace. My ex was very angry at me when he broke up as well... I was hurt said many things and spammed him like crazy. 4 years down the drain. I was torn! He ignored me like your ex is... I went NC for a month... Dying each day. And I randomly called him. He was so surprised... He was wondering what had happened to me and he was no longer angry. Time fades anger. Sadly doesn't mean his coming back. He has a reason a main one. That he can't say. Something with his family, they never met me and don't like me. 4 years they said I was badluck
iouaname Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Are you really willing to put your life on hold for a year to wait for something that may or may not happen? Not only is there no guarantee, but it doesn't even seem likely that after a year she'd just waltz right back into your life. You don't have to give up the hope that she might come back one day, you just have to live your life as if she won't. The hope will sort itself out on its own. I'm sorry that you're hurting I know how tough this is. 2
Author crimsoncurrent Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Are you really willing to put your life on hold for a year to wait for something that may or may not happen? Not only is there no guarantee, but it doesn't even seem likely that after a year she'd just waltz right back into your life. You don't have to give up the hope that she might come back one day, you just have to live your life as if she won't. The hope will sort itself out on its own. I'm sorry that you're hurting I know how tough this is. Thank you so much for your response. It's very helpful to hear. With each passing day, I'm losing hope that we'll ever get back together. I try and stay positive, thinking that there's plenty ahead in my future, but on some days, it's really difficult, thinking about her constantly, wondering if she's with another guy, feeling so bizarre that my situation is actually happening. But you're right, she's given me no guarantee, just a long-shot hypothetical.
Author crimsoncurrent Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Does it feel like your living without direction? that's how I feel... Not knowing what's going to happen. Not having control over your future. It really screws your mind up. All I wanna know is. Is he coming back or not... And I can't even get an answer. Yes, at times, I do feel that way. I think about all the plans we had, wanting to get married and start a family, now completely wasted away. But, whatever happens, I know I'll be okay, just going to take a lot of time. Before we broke up, she told me she'll be the best I'll ever have. I feel very bitter when I think of her statement, thinking how arrogant for anyone to say.
FailedFirstLove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Yes, at times, I do feel that way. I think about all the plans we had, wanting to get married and start a family, now completely wasted away. But, whatever happens, I know I'll be okay, just going to take a lot of time. Before we broke up, she told me she'll be the best I'll ever have. I feel very bitter when I think of her statement, thinking how arrogant for anyone to say. wow shes the one that dumped you and also said that? okay if you cheated or abused her then i can see why she would say that... too much confidence and you gave her more by pleading with her =(
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