DrStrangelove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Just got out of a 3 year. Can see my previous thread. Met this girl online - and wow is she sweet, caring, and beautiful. After being out of the dating game so long - IDK if she is interested as in more than friends. I think she is - but do not want to get my hopes up. We have been texting non-stop the last week. She replies back very quickly. Even with a busy schedule. Anyways, we just met in-person, and I think I did enough to draw her in. I asked her this as it was going to eat me up, and eventually it had to come out. "...If you aren't interested, I will completely understand. I don't want to waste anyone's time here. It might be to early for this, maybe not. I won't be hurt if your not. It was nice to meet you" blah blah. She replied, "I am interested but in my defense, I just wanna take things slow. Possibly slower than you'd like, and if that isn't what you want than I'm okay with that and just want you to find some happiness. It wasn't nice to see you so down, and I hope maybe to help change that :)" She knows I have been down after my 3 year, and she has been a crutch. I think she really wants to help me. I just hope the attraction is there. Input? I'll keep this thread update. Fellow members help me, and I am so greatly appreciated for you guys/gals. TY!
Lani Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 How long have you been out of your previous relationship? I think if you want things to seriously continue with this new woman, you need to disassociate what happened in your previous relationship with whatever is happening now. Talking to someone about your ex is the quickest way to the friendzone..
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Dont blame her for wanting to take it slow. This girl is your rebound whether you realize it or not 1
Author DrStrangelove Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 ouch. I'm sure I am over my ex. It has been a month now. But, I didn't ever love her until we split up. I only loved the idea of having a gf, which I just now realized, after taking some time to re-evaluate things. I won't talk about my ex around her anymore.
Lani Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 So you didn't love your ex, until you broke up? And you've only been broken up a month? Or you loved the idea of having a girlfriend? I'm very confused. But yeah, talking about your ex with a new love interest isn't a good idea.
Author DrStrangelove Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 I only loved the idea of having a gf during the duration of that relationship. I missed her when we broke up, which is normal, as a dumpee. I just sent this new girl a text, "im leaving my ex in the past, I learned from it, and it is where it needs to be. Im over her, and I do not need to talk to you about it anymore, you have my undivided attentions. Sorry for being emotion heavy, back to being casual" Actions speak louder than words.. I am not going to mess this one up. She is actually my race, which is a plus. My other girl was Caucasian, and I am Indian - parents did not accept.
Lani Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Well all sounds positive! Best of luck with the relationship, I hope it all works out for you.
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