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well, in the countries where I've lived in, in Europe - around 5, in total - people do act the same as in the US, minus the rules, I guess.

 

You don't get exclusive after your first date, but expect some decency after the first kiss. You won't get exclusive immediately after you sleep together, but you will have a sort of a talk to understand where the other guy is heading. It doesn't imply exclusivity straight away, but people around here (those I've slept with, at least) will give you a hint - open relationship or not.

 

but if you get the "no, i'm not sleeping with anyone else", you stop worrying about "are we in a relationship". You just date. You may not immediately get the "bf / gf " term, but it usually pops up, a few months later, if things go well.

 

A lot less stricter rules about when you are sleeping with your partner - no one counts "the third date" or the "fifth date"... that's it.

 

I'm in my early 30's, maybe it's different with people in their 20's, I don't know. I remember I was dating a younger Danish guy and we were cool, I was comfortable to have him around. We were seeing each other for two three weeks and I cooked for him. Also he did enjoy it, I could feel he was ... tense. He felt pressured. I felt like laughing, it was only dinner, grilled salmon and some veggies, no big deal, I wasn't not going to propose :p.

 

I guess I am used to a certain type of interaction, because of my long term relationship, but lesson learnt. Hadn't prepare dinner for a guy since that time (9 months ago) - broke the record this Sunday.

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