AlexisMacabre Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 So my ex and I broke up the 8th of jan and after a week in a half he ended up starting to date a 16 year old little girl he just really started talking to and mind you he is 22 years old as am I and we were together for a year and lived with each other for a year, this is our first breakup ever and from what he says is our last from what he says that he still loves me and misses us but just can't do it again. I'm so devastated about the whole situation and I can't seem to stop crying and I hope that coming here can sorda ease my pain, if anyone has advice, wise words or anything to just help me out I would appreciate it.Thank you!
Confusedandinlove Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I just went through a devastating break up myself, and im having the same problem as you. I find that i am crying myself to sleep most nights and whenever im alone, when i get the chance i scream and cry and yell at the world for bringing me pain. And you know what, it actually helps. I am able to hide most of my pain when needed and as time progresses you will feel less of a need to do these things. But my advice to you is to just let it all out, wether its to a friend or to yourself, just scream and cry and curse and just get angry at everything thats ever made you upset. I hope this helps! It certainly works for me!
Mizzmonoxide Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Thank you, I've cried so much I thought id stop by now, I was the dumper but only because I had a good reason for it and now I find myself in a lot of regret over what I did and it's too late to even fix it now.
Minadee Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 My ex left me within a matter of days for an eighteen year old virgin after 3 years together WHILE I was pregnant with his child! I think some men get afraid of how committed they are. I've read a lot on this forum about 21-22 being the perfect age to get "GIGS" which is what your ex might be experiencing. Right now, you're going through the toughest phase. I promise you, you will make it out the end. For about a month after the BU I was crying so hard every night that I was making myself very ill. I was constantly throwing up, had terrible bowel isses (sorry if that's TMI!) was taking so much time off from work and my studies. Eventually I just said "Enough is enough, he is out there enjoying his life while I am crumbling. He does not deserve my tears anymore." and although I still have shaky days, It's really helped me to cope. I think you're also suffering a control thing as well. I felt the same way too, I pushed and pushed my ex, I was unhappy with my work and took it out on him, so when I gave him the ultimatum to stay with me or leave (and he left) I was in complete an utter shock. Don't do what I did ... (write love letters, beg, all those borderline-stalker stuff we do in the "desperation" phase!) just let him get on with his life. Nothing is a bigger middle finger to them when you don't need them like they think you do. I wish you good luck, and i'm here if you ever want to message me.
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