TaraMaiden Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Well, okay. You're almost 18. And by the sound of it, you've tried to 'conform' in an effort to win friends and be liked. But -they're the 9 year-olds. In other words, they're puerile, pathetic, immature, childish and very hurtful - and what's more, they think it's fun. All the more reason to stay away from them. If I were you, I would take this as an object lesson, and you know what? Tell Juan. Find a way of breaking it to him, somehow..... And tell him that you're telling him because you feel very ashamed, and actually, you like him a lot. You've gotten to know him well over the past couple of weeks, and discovered that he's a really nice guy. And then suggest to him that you visit the 'ex-friends' together, so he can be with you while you give them their $20.00 and a piece of your mind. (How you do this, and whether you do it or not is up to you. But it would be worth the effort just to see their faces, when he hands over the $20.00 and you tell them it's the best money you've ever spent....) Tell them you're done with their stupid jokes and dares, it's not funny, it's not clever, and actually, they are the laughing stock of the year because everyone thinks they're juvenile, immature and pathetic. be the bigger person. You won't end up friendless, through this - because these people are not friends. Juan is a friend. Cultivate that kind of friendship, because it's priceless.
CC12 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 I'm going to send all of them to hell tomorrow. I don't know what you mean by this, but if you're considering having some sort of altercation with them, just don't. That never turns out how you think it's going to. It will never be as satisfying as it is in your imagination. Yeah, it's fun to think things like, "I am SO going to march right up to them and give them a piece of my mind then triumphantly walk away while they stand there speechless as they all realize what huge bitches they've become." But it will never actually happen that way. It will probably either just be really awkward or things might escalate. It's not going to make you feel any better. And, you know, this is a good time to start exhibiting maturity. Have a spine. Show some class. No confrontations, just be unavailable to them from now on. Stop hanging out with them. Don't return their calls. If one of them asks you why you haven't been around, just say, "I haven't been in the mood. See you later." As far as dealing with Juan if he finds out what you did, well, there's really no way to fix that. Apologize profusely and sincerely, but if he hates you and never wants to see your face again, you're going to have to respect that. That's one of the consequences of doing messed up things to people. They're not going to like it or you. I'm sorry your current friends are so ****ty, and I'm sorry that you felt such a need to be accepted by them. But I am glad that this has lead to (hopefully) some soul-searching and a learning experience for you. 1
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