Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Hi there, Well I guess I need some advice. I met this beautiful girl at a bar with her cousin and sister a month ago. she speaks spanish and i speak some myself so we sorta hit it off and had a great time. Her sister said she liked me alot after they left to go back to Mexico. The problem is she lives 5 hours away and obviously in another country. I am 25, she is 21. We messaged almost every day after she left and after a month, I went down to see her last weekend and it was a great time. Of course, I was with her family and friends the whole time and we had very little alone time. We got cozy together at a bar with her friends, but that was about as far as it went, no kissing or anything. The next day when we hung out with her sister and her father who drove us, she gave me this vibe that we were just friends and she wanted no part of a romantic relationship. I guess my question is what do I do? She's beautiful and she has a really good head on her shoulders, but she even admitted herself that she is complicated and can be difficult to talk to which I have noticed at times. I also think she is innocent and has had very little if any experience with guys. I get mixed signals from her and I realize that I could be setting myself up for disappointment if I try and push things any further. Should I let her go and just chalk it up as a fun experience or try and continue to communicate with her and see what happens? Thanks, Chris
lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Hi there, Well I guess I need some advice. I met this beautiful girl at a bar with her cousin and sister a month ago. she speaks spanish and i speak some myself so we sorta hit it off and had a great time. Her sister said she liked me alot after they left to go back to Mexico. The problem is she lives 5 hours away and obviously in another country. I am 25, she is 21. We messaged almost every day after she left and after a month, I went down to see her last weekend and it was a great time. Of course, I was with her family and friends the whole time and we had very little alone time. We got cozy together at a bar with her friends, but that was about as far as it went, no kissing or anything. The next day when we hung out with her sister and her father who drove us, she gave me this vibe that we were just friends and she wanted no part of a romantic relationship. I guess my question is what do I do? She's beautiful and she has a really good head on her shoulders, but she even admitted herself that she is complicated and can be difficult to talk to which I have noticed at times. I also think she is innocent and has had very little if any experience with guys. I get mixed signals from her and I realize that I could be setting myself up for disappointment if I try and push things any further. Should I let her go and just chalk it up as a fun experience or try and continue to communicate with her and see what happens? Thanks, Chris LDR rarely work, my man. And I had a LDR with a 19 yr old Latina (I'm 22). She's from Los Angeles, I'm from PA. We went to the same school, but over summer break (only 2 months), it was INCREDIBLY difficult for her. Every girl is different though. I'm just saying. Personally, if I were you, I'd end it and find a girl more accessible.
FitChick Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 You don't have to go to Mexico to find a Mexican. Just look around you. There are millions here with many more to come.
in_absentia Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 You don't have to go to Mexico to find a Mexican. Just look around you. There are millions here with many more to come. Whereabouts did the OP say he wanted a Mexican gf? He's interested in this chick in particular. Not 'Latinos' as some kind of homogenous lump. OP, this scenario doesn't sound like it is going to end well (LDR hard enough as it is, especially with your young ages and the fact you don't even know if she's into you). Ask her how she feels about you, and her answer will tell you what you need to know. You could just chalk it up to 'fun' but I think it's usually better to give it a shot and be knocked back than to live your life regretting things you were too scared to do. Good luck.
FitChick Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Whereabouts did the OP say he wanted a Mexican gf? He's interested in this chick in particular. Not 'Latinos' as some kind of homogenous lump. If she lives in Tijuana and he lives in San Diego no problem. If he lives in Fargo ND and she lives near the Guatemalan border, more of a problem. However, if he has the time and money to travel, go for it. I've never let distance stop me.
Lil1 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Chris I'm gonna go out on a limb and tell you that she will most likely just play with your feelings... keep you hanging on a string. Save yourself some grief and don't pursue anything serious with her. She's young and partying it up in 2 countries and probably has like 20 men lined up pining after her already. I know Im assuming a lot but a girl who has already told you she is complicated and difficult most likely is not interested in anything short of a doormat. Move on and enjoy your youth!
Author Fmrbrknhrt22 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Wow I really appreciate all the advice you guys. She is receptive when we talk through text, but unlike before when I went over to see her, she has yet to initiate. I think you guys are right in that I am setting myself up for disappointment. She has a lot going for her, but it's difficult maintaining a good conversation with her and while she has been caring and sweet, I don't feel like she's done or said anything to make me feel that the possibility of something more exists other than a friendship. We have also yet to even skype since I've gotten to know her and she made up excuses for why she couldn't before. Thank you everyone for your advice, I think I'll try and keep my distance. 1
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