slickrick1 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Hey All, Long story short, this girl and I have been acquaintances and sort of friends back from school. We're currently in the same city, she's in grad school and I'm working. We've hung out alone a handful of times, but no hookups. She went home for winter break, but decided to come back 7+ hours to the city for New Years Eve (only person she knew was me and her other girl friend who also didn't know anyone else at the party). By this point, we're friends, but we're obviously not that close. Fast forward a few weeks to the present, we've hung out two more times with no hookups, but this past weekend we go out to dinner and share dessert, end up at some bars with people, and finally back at her place... but she makes me a bed on the floor. Friend-zoned? Move on? Is she interested but shy? The bed thing + New Years Eve confuses me.
lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Hey All, Long story short, this girl and I have been acquaintances and sort of friends back from school. We're currently in the same city, she's in grad school and I'm working. We've hung out alone a handful of times, but no hookups. She went home for winter break, but decided to come back 7+ hours to the city for New Years Eve (only person she knew was me and her other girl friend who also didn't know anyone else at the party). By this point, we're friends, but we're obviously not that close. Fast forward a few weeks to the present, we've hung out two more times with no hookups, but this past weekend we go out to dinner and share dessert, end up at some bars with people, and finally back at her place... but she makes me a bed on the floor. Friend-zoned? Move on? Is she interested but shy? The bed thing + New Years Eve confuses me. Friend-zoned. Bed on the floor? Really? C'mon man.... I'm one that thinks it is possible to get out of the friendzone. My best female friend of 11 years and I had sex a couple of months ago. It was kind of a heat of the moment thing. To be honest, I think it was more of a hiccup than anything else, we have both friendzoned each other. My advice? You could still sway her to take you out of the friendzone, but it might just be a hell of a lot easier to just realize what it is and move on.
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) It depends on the girls personality and her values and so on. If a guy does nothing but hang out with me (really no dates or just one date, just hanging out all the time) and then makes physical moves, I assume he isnt that into me and just wants to screw. I got too much self respect for that. If I wanted something casual perhaps but Ive been past that for the past few years Ive been in situations like this before with a guy where I could tell he thought he was getting sex and I made him sleep on the floor. Why? If he gets into bed with me, he thinks hes getting sex...and I am not a tease You said you didnt get a hookup several times...sounds like that is all you really want. Perhaps she doesnt. If you want something casual from her you should just ask or make a physical move, then you get your answer Edited January 31, 2013 by pbjbear
Author slickrick1 Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Are you interested in her?? I think so. FYI- I only mentioned the hooking up part to show that things haven't escalated physically.
lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Go in for light touches on the arms, shoulders, lower back. See how she reacts. If she pulls away or gives you a look, well, you know your answer. Keep the friendship, don't make it weird. If she's drawn in, try and escalate. Still, if there is any sign of her getting weirded out, I recommend backing off and seeing it for what it is -- just friends.
Lani Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 You think so? Gah... thats dumb. Either you are, or you aren't. Anyway, if you like her, then man up and make a move. It doesn't have to be anything major, but just something minor. Like maybe touch her a little more than you usually do. Tell her how great she looks. etc.. See how she reacts to all of that, and if you're getting positive vibes then either tell her you like her, or make some bigger moves.
lakerman34 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 You think so? Gah... thats dumb. Either you are, or you aren't. Anyway, if you like her, then man up and make a move. It doesn't have to be anything major, but just something minor. Like maybe touch her a little more than you usually do. Tell her how great she looks. etc.. See how she reacts to all of that, and if you're getting positive vibes then either tell her you like her, or make some bigger moves. EXACTLY! Some of the ladies in this forum think that is 'PUA garbage,' but don't let that sway you. It has nothing to do with PUA. They were probably picked up this way too, just don't even know it. It has EVERYTHING to do with human psychology. Go in for light touches, shoulders, elbows, lower back, see how she reacts.
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