ptp Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 (edited) I have a friend lets call him errr... Steve. I have known him since undergrad and in college he had no luck with women. Even my modest success was more than what he got. He isn't exceptionally good looking, but is above average and is about 5'6". He isn't particularly charming or funny. Fast forward to now he has plenty of success with women. He works for a magazine and comes in contact with a lot of women. We went out recently to a work party of his and I was observing him. There were a lot coworkers or acquaintances from work. First woman: Hey Steve! Steve: Hey, this is my friend ptp. *puts his hands around her and with a smile says * Steve: Are we going to get drunk enough to wind up in bed together? We walk up to a second woman he knows who is sitting down on a bar stool. He puts his hands on her thigh and says with a smile: Steve: Hey, I love this dress that you have on, lets get out of here I want see what's underneath it. * She gives him an annoyed, as-if look and gently slaps his hand away * Second woman: Lets not. Second woman: Hey have you met my friend Angela? I want to introduce you to her. Steve: Is she f***able? You know I only want you... * goes in for a hug * Steve:...or we could try a three way. ----------------- Now I don't really know how well he knows these women, but I would never speak to any woman this way. I am a little conservative and would have a difficult time saying these things. Also, if picture myself talking this way, I see myself getting slapped or being very annoying to/offending the woman. However, it works for my friend. He sleeps with a lot of very attractive women. And these women are smart,educated and earn a lot of $. He basically acts like a horn dog all the time, but it seems like it is forgiven because he does with a smile. So what gives ladies? Should I being trying to be more like him? Edited January 31, 2013 by ptp
skings Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I am not expert on this but it looks like he has taped the Quagmire dating class episode from Family Guy and acting on that (if you haven't see it, it is about treating girls like crap to lower their self esteem and boost your own).. giggity 3
xxoo Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 It sounds like he's laying it on a little thick. Back off about 50%, and it could work 1
ThaWholigan Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 It works for some guys. They are fairly direct and blunt in their flirting. I am pretty crude myself nowadays but only on occasions . I am like yourself - naturally quite reserved in terms of flirting, but it helps to add a bit of spice and figure out what style or mode of flirting works best for you. I find that women are much less offended by such things than we think - and that it's probably better to be a bit bold than to be too reserved. Not saying you should be like him (he seems a tad excessive but I think it probably works for him - like he's grown into his style), but you should try to experiment a little when talking to women. See what style you're comfortable with that works for you. (yes, I know. I'm no lady ) 1
SmileFace Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 If I know a guy and already established he is a friend and/or gay... sure... He can bull**** with me all night like that I am pretty crude myself in a social gathering environment. However I don't really like the show off-ish cocky ones so as much as I will joke around with a guy like that - I would rather the friend who was more reserved. So if a guy is acts like that initially I am more way turned off. Especially in a club setting where it is easy to get hit on. I rather be the one initiating anyway. I don't like guys who think they run **** - or act this way. However this attitude works on tons of chicks. 1
harnold Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I have a friend lets call him errr... Steve. I have known him since undergrad and in college he had no luck with women. Even my modest success was more than what he got. He isn't exceptionally good looking, but is above average and is about 5'6". He isn't particularly charming or funny. Fast forward to now he has plenty of success with women. He works for a magazine and comes in contact with a lot of women. We went out recently to a work party of his and I was observing him. There were a lot coworkers or acquaintances from work. First woman: Hey Steve! Steve: Hey, this is my friend ptp. *puts his hands around her and with a smile says * Steve: Are we going to get drunk enough to wind up in bed together? We walk up to a second woman he knows who is sitting down on a bar stool. He puts his hands on her thigh and says with a smile: Steve: Hey, I love this dress that you have on, lets get out of here I want see what's underneath it. * She gives him an annoyed, as-if look and gently slaps his hand away * Second woman: Lets not. Second woman: Hey have you met my friend Angela? I want to introduce you to her. Steve: Is she f***able? You know I only want you... * goes in for a hug * Steve:...or we could try a three way. ----------------- Now I don't really know how well he knows these women, but I would never speak to any woman this way. I am a little conservative and would have a difficult time saying these things. Also, if picture myself talking this way, I see myself getting slapped or being very annoying to/offending the woman. However, it works for my friend. He sleeps with a lot of very attractive women. And these women are smart,educated and earn a lot of $. He basically acts like a horn dog all the time, but it seems like it is forgiven because he does with a smile. So what gives ladies? Should I being trying to be more like him? Lol that's my boy! That kinda attitude works really well... but it also depends on the girl to some extent. In some situations I'd use those lines as a silly opener, but in others I'd say some other stupid **** first before I really start laying it onto them. Girls love shock value. It works, but you have to have confidence and the cocky personality that comes along with using those lines. If you're a ****ing weirdo, and you go up to some chick and drop some line like that, it's not gonna work very well. And you'll just be considered even weirder than before lolol. Realize that you have to be confident with rejection too. Obviously not every girl is gonna be responsive to that kinda attitude... but who cares! Not like you're staking anything on it... plus the rejections always make for the best stories 1
pbjbear Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 That stuff works on certain girls...not me. Ewww sleazy 1
CC12 Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 He sleeps with a lot of very attractive women. Have you personally witnessed this? Well, I mean, not the actual act itself, but do you know for a fact that he sleeps with lots of women? Do you see him with lots of different girls, and do these girls seem like they're spending time with him in a romantic way? I can't imagine his routine actually working very well, unless he is ridiculously charming and funny, and you say he's not. And when someone blatantly hits on so many people, they're probably not going to say, "Yeah, it doesn't work. I never get laid." They kind of have to act like they have all this success or else they risk looking like a pathetic fool. So if you haven't actually seen him spending time with all these hot, smart, rich women, then take whatever he says with a grain of salt. So what gives ladies? Should I being trying to be more like him? No, don't try to be more like him. If he's got a lot of confidence, maybe that's something worth emulating. Confidence is good, being offensive and gross and touching people who may not want to be touched is sleazy. And he's doing that **** at a work function. That makes it worse. Just to be clear, I'm not saying that hitting on or flirting with coworkers or women in general is a bad thing, just that it's ****ed up to walk up to someone and announce that you want to have sex with them. 1
Lani Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 These guys are everywhere. And yes, women may well sleep with them, because they're funny and confident. But, they are not the guys we stay with and marry. And their womanising ways will eventually catch up with them and they'll be all alone. Don't try to be more like anyone else. If you feel the need to change anything, then be more of the better parts of yourself.
Almond_Joy Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I always assume guys that do this are not really serious and are just trying to make the typical sober girl laugh at their idiotic public display. Absolutely no way I can take a guy seriously who acts like that. But if a girl's really horny and drunk, that approach probably garners him plenty of success. And many girls are horny and drunk often enough for him to consistently succeed lol.
Sanctionne Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 I suppose it depends on what it is that you're looking for. I don't see how any respectable female could allow herself to be talked to that way. If you choose to follow in your freinds footsteps I'd make sure to wear a condom everytime because there is no telling what kind of guys shes had sex with.
AMusing Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 We went out recently to a work party of his and I was observing him. There were a lot coworkers or acquaintances from work. So what gives ladies? Should I being trying to be more like him? He does this to coworkers and work acquaintances? He better be careful; said to the wrong woman (or even in front of the wrong woman), this could easily be construed as sexual harassment. Harassment allegations aside, no, don't be more like this dude. He really does sound like Quagmire. The women who fall for those lines have to be drunk or desperate (or fictional).
normal person Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 "Steve" sounds like he's completely devoid of any substance. He basically has 30 banal, unoriginal, unfunny ways of saying "let's have sex" and nothing else. What a fascinating person, right? He's not really too clever; he thinks he can act like it's just a big joke but secretly hopes that some woman take him up on it eventually. Personally speaking, I think any guy who walks around talking like this is a complete waste. I would never want to be involved with a woman who thought this kind of act was clever, funny, original, or not completely moronic.
subliminal Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 wasnt this a movie called "crazy stupid love"?
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