Kath314 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I have a very unhealthy relationship with a younger sister that has gotten to the point where I am considering ending ties with her completely. Essentially, for a cliff notes version of our story it comes down to a need to not engage in any unhealthy relationship drama. I've been in counseling and feel I'm in a really healthy place now. My problem is whenever we speak, she says very nasty hurtful and mean things. What's amazing is she doesn't know she is doing it. She is very pragmatic self righteous and low on self awareness and empathy. I will even in such moments give her the benefit of the doubt and ask for clarification for her nasty comment. She becomes defensive and provides the logical basis for her statement based on the facts as she understands them. She refuses to apologize and says I'm being overly sensitive. I help her to try and see my point of view so she can know why it would hurt. She still refuses to understand. I am at a loss as to what to do, but have determined I need to let go somehow. I need to let go of the expectation she will change or that the relationship can be different. I've discussed this with our parents and they understand. Any thoughts? Has anyone out there ended contact with a family member? P.s. sorry this is so long, it's my first time here
snowangel77 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I can relate to what you are saying as I have disowned a family member. If your sister is causing that much hurt in your life, I feel you have every right to distance yourself from her. Doesn't sound like she wants to hear what you have to say or about your feelings. If you keep allowing her to do this, it will never stop. All you can do is distance yourself and pray for her and yourself. Be sure it's what you want to do before you take action. I've seen many people "disown" a family member and then something bad happens to that person and they feel guilty. Having said that, disowning someone and keeping your distance is two different things. Only you can decide what is best for you. Good Luck!
alex1 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Hi every one my name is Alex Nathan and new on this forum..
Recommended Posts