starla33 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 we have been seeing eachother for about 2 months now. He told me after a few dates he has 0 interest in a relationship and has not had one in years. Which is fine since we were having fun I decided to continue. So then yesterday he brings it up again that he does not want a relationship. I don't get why he needs to keep bringing it up? I have not changed the way I have been acting from the start and have been just having fun with him. He was the one that was getting extra affectionate all of a sudden yesterday. Why is it necessary to keep bringing this topic up?
KungFuJoe Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 The same reason as to why it was necessary for you to make this thread. And the answer is...I have no freakin clue. 2
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Prob because most women are dumb and will want one later down the road after repeated sex, even though they say they dont care and will never want one
KungFuJoe Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Prob because most women are dumb and will want one later down the road after repeated sex, even though they say they dont care and will never want one Damn woman...you are a walking billboard of advocating strong women, aren't you? 2
Green Light Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 we have been seeing eachother for about 2 months now. He told me after a few dates he has 0 interest in a relationship and has not had one in years. Which is fine since we were having fun I decided to continue. So then yesterday he brings it up again that he does not want a relationship. I don't get why he needs to keep bringing it up? I have not changed the way I have been acting from the start and have been just having fun with him. He was the one that was getting extra affectionate all of a sudden yesterday. Why is it necessary to keep bringing this topic up? To be honest, I think you both care about each other more than you realize. 1
SmileFace Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Tell him to stop bringing it up. End of story. This is why I don't even talk to my flings...lol j/k.... kinda But you need to talk to him and it really shouldn't bother you. It seems like his indecisiveness if making you doubt yourself. Are you only settling for what he wants or do you really want something casual? Since the latter is the only way this will work 2
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Maybe the OP really doesnt care for him and is posting this out of curiosity or boredom. But many women say they wont care and then later get emotionally invested and involved. Perhaps this man has had this happen to him in the past, so by bringing it up more he thinks its wont happen again. Who knows
Author starla33 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Tell him to stop bringing it up. End of story. This is why I don't even talk to my flings...lol j/k.... kinda But you need to talk to him and it really shouldn't bother you. It seems like his indecisiveness if making you doubt yourself. Are you only settling for what he wants or do you really want something casual? Since the latter is the only way this will work I'm fine with it for now. I will break it off before I get attached.
xxoo Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Probably because he doesn't want to be accused of leading you when he is acting affectionate. 1
SJC2008 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 (edited) I'm fine with it for now. I will break it off before I get attached. It doesn't work that way. Once the light bulb goes off in your head that you need to break it off before you're attached, you're attached. Mabye not totally invested, but starting to get invested. Why should you be mad ad what he's saying if you are infact "ok" with the situation? He's reiterating that he doesn't want to be tied down just in case you get any ideas because he doesn't want to hurt you. Edited January 30, 2013 by SJC2008 speelin
SmileFace Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I'm fine with it for now. I will break it off before I get attached. Nope. Step the hell away.
Author starla33 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 It doesn't work that way. Once the light bulb goes off in your head that you need to break it off before you're attached, you're attached. Mabye not totally invested, but starting to get invested. Why should you be mad ad what he's saying if you are infact "ok" with the situation? He's reiterating that he doesn't want to be tied down just in case you get any ideas because he doesn't want to hurt you. I got it the first time. There is no need to repeat it randomly after being affectionate. I'm not acting any different...he is
rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Three reasons. Depends on his personality. (1) He thinks that you may misinterpret one of his recent actions/behavior as an attempt for a relationship. (2) He doesn't want a relationship but at the same time feels he does. So he is saying it as a reminder to himself. (3) He thinks that by saying it, he is getting the upper hand. This has to do with his ego/pride. 1
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