SeparateUniverse Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 So,my ex,whom i reconciled nine months ago,left me in the same manner as before,over facebook,total deletion and nc and making it like he just isn't for this relationship thing(his words,not mine).And like it was all my fault.He left me about 3 weeks ago. So,i've broken Nc to hear his voice,about a week ago,and ask for my stuff back.Well,he was very cold towards me and asked me why am i doing this to myself,and that he doesn't want to make himself nervous about it.he also thought that i was calling to emotionally blackmail him and that i just wanted a reaction.(?) well,i've asked for my things back,to which he replied he will send them,but he doesn't know how much it will cost me,the shipping(we were ldr),even if i gave him a lot of money to come over again prior to breaking up.So i told him then to keep it around and when i find a way to get them back,i will contact him.I've found a way,but i'm not keen on breaking nc that easily. He said he will send them nonetheless but i'm still waiting mind you,these are the stuff that virtually surround his room and house.From books to a t shirt that smells of me,to my shoes,my perfume,and a lot of stuff like that. do you mind clearing it up why he could be still keeping so many things around?I know that i've packed his things,but,i'm still unsure whether to send it over since that would be the last piece of "it's over" and i still love my ex.
flitzanu Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 So,my ex,whom i reconciled nine months ago,left me in the same manner as before,over facebook,total deletion and nc and making it like he just isn't for this relationship thing(his words,not mine).And like it was all my fault.He left me about 3 weeks ago. So,i've broken Nc to hear his voice,about a week ago,and ask for my stuff back.Well,he was very cold towards me and asked me why am i doing this to myself,and that he doesn't want to make himself nervous about it.he also thought that i was calling to emotionally blackmail him and that i just wanted a reaction.(?) well,i've asked for my things back,to which he replied he will send them,but he doesn't know how much it will cost me,the shipping(we were ldr),even if i gave him a lot of money to come over again prior to breaking up.So i told him then to keep it around and when i find a way to get them back,i will contact him.I've found a way,but i'm not keen on breaking nc that easily. He said he will send them nonetheless but i'm still waiting mind you,these are the stuff that virtually surround his room and house.From books to a t shirt that smells of me,to my shoes,my perfume,and a lot of stuff like that. do you mind clearing it up why he could be still keeping so many things around?I know that i've packed his things,but,i'm still unsure whether to send it over since that would be the last piece of "it's over" and i still love my ex. he isn't keeping it around, he just hasnt' gotten rid of it. and for you, holding on to his things and not sending them is you trying to barter to have him in your life. keeping his stuff ransom is no way to get him to communicate with you. exchange your stuff and be done with it.
Author SeparateUniverse Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Yeah,so i thought.Thanks for the answer.I'm caught up between pursuing nc,since,i can't bear to hear his voice or anything right now,and sending the things, which means that reluctantly i would have to contact him...eh,well,i guess i'll just have to be the brave one again.
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