pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Thanks! Yeah, I find other men interesting. I think it's normal, but the most importante is to not feed that feeling. I think that's where the cheating comes in. If people would stop feeding that "crush" feeling nothing would happen. And by him going to her Facebook i can't help but feel like he is feeding his desire/interest in her. It's crazy. I am now FEARING BIG TIME of being cheated on. Its crazy how many people do it and get away with it. I read that almost 80% of people once in their lifetime do it. And it scares me. VERY MUCH! Well a huge myth is that having a loving girlfriend stops a man from cheating. It does around 50% of the time according to stats, the other 50% of men just have no self control. The good news is that it seems like youre a good girlfriend, so if he cheats that means he has poor self control...and theres not a damn thing you can do about that. A S.O cheating is really out of your control (as long as you arent being a bad girlfriend) People can stop cheating before it happens if they didnt "feed it" like you said- I agree. However, not all guys are self aware and mature enough to do this (or care enough about their partner to do it). I would try to tag along once if you want and just scope things out more
Author aamfma3 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Aw, I know. But you know, pteromom is absolutely right - no matter what, you WILL be OK. (It is a little weird that she tried adding you without having met you. But then, some people just like to collect FB friends. I know someone with upwards of 3000 of them.) Thanks I will leave if any he cheats on me. He knows that. I don't care if it's a one time thing. I would NEVER cheat so I expect no one to cheat on me. I am just scared of not knowing like so many other women out there. I am guess him checking her out on facebook sends out a big red flag...
Author aamfma3 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 The girl might have added you because shes curious about who you are... I have met guys I became friendly with that have girlfriends I never met. I dont add their gf's on Facebook, that seems weird, but I have wondered what type of girl they were. (Wondering about this for many reasons I wont go into...but Ill admit when I meet a man who is very flirtacious and disrespectful I do wonder what his gf is like)... Not saying she has the same exact thought process as me...but curiosity Thanks :)
Author aamfma3 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Well a huge myth is that having a loving girlfriend stops a man from cheating. It does around 50% of the time according to stats, the other 50% of men just have no self control. The good news is that it seems like youre a good girlfriend, so if he cheats that means he has poor self control...and theres not a damn thing you can do about that. A S.O cheating is really out of your control (as long as you arent being a bad girlfriend) People can stop cheating before it happens if they didnt "feed it" like you said- I agree. However, not all guys are self aware and mature enough to do this (or care enough about their partner to do it). I would try to tag along once if you want and just scope things out more Thanks, I'm gonna try it
HitMeNow Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 On the you activity log there are your searchs. I'm freaked out by the number of cheating going on in this world. It scares me. I am scared of never finding out. And I personally think that the Facebook stalking is a redflag...But I can't seem to prove it. Ugh so ****ty. Innocent until proven guilty. I think you should know your SO well enough to know if they would cheat or not. If your guy, is a guy of good values, respected, and cares about HIS core values, then chances that he ll cheat are sliim.
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