Maverick88 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Hello! I can really use some advice these days. I'll try to make this story as short as possible. First of all, I'll try to make a few things clear. I (24) grew up as a child in the Netherlands, but at the moment I live in Israel. I met this girl (20), who lives in the Netherlands, through a Israeli-Dutch Facebook group. We started some intensive talking for around a week, writing each other messages which can fill with ease a few pages in word. By chance she planned to visit her family in Israel for the next 3 weeks, so I thought this might be a great opportunity to see if there is any chance for a future relationship. I believe that the only way to advance in a relationship is to meet each other face to face. The Facebook might be a great place to start something, but if you want to move a step forward it has to be in real life. Anyway, we suggested to each other to meet up near the sea, as we both love this place. We spent a few great hours together, talking, drinking coffee, eating ice cream and walking along the seaside and city streets. The chemistry was great, as if we knew each other for years, but that might be because of our similar (Dutch) background. Now, I've dated women before, some dates were more successful and other were less, but I've known when progress could be made and when not. Since I met this girl a few days ago, I'm in the clouds. Instead of focusing on my exams, I'm thinking about her and how great she is, and how it would be great to spend more time with her. The interesting part is that she is planning to make Aliyah in the Summer, meaning that she plans to move to Israel. The question is: what should I do? How do I know if she feel the same as I do? We decided to meet each other another time next week, just before she leaves back to the Netherlands. Do I tell her what I feel and think about her, knowing that a negative answer may break the friendship? Or do I wait 6 months till she makes the move and give her enough space and time to see if things can go a step further, knowing that in 6 months a lot can happen? I've been in this situation once before with an other girl. At that time I decided to tell the truth, unfortunately there was no mutual expectations. Any advice is welcome. Thanks in advance
will1988 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I'd say tell her how you feel and if she would like to stay in contact until she moves out... if you are getting the good vibe from her, ask her if she wants to be in a long distant relationship. 1
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