sjh2156 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I have been dating a lovely lady for a few months now, we are both in our 30’s and we get on great, she is the nicest person I have met for sometime and is always showing her caring side to others. In my honest opinion she should have the guys queuing up to take her out, but she only wants to be with me and has started talking about the future etc. I do care for her allot and if even it doesn't work out between us I would still care about her well-being. So why is it the last few times we have been out I have started to get nervous and shy when around her, it doesn't make any sense?
louise_23 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I have been dating a lovely lady for a few months now, we are both in our 30’s and we get on great, she is the nicest person I have met for sometime and is always showing her caring side to others. In my honest opinion she should have the guys queuing up to take her out, but she only wants to be with me and has started talking about the future etc. I do care for her allot and if even it doesn't work out between us I would still care about her well-being. So why is it the last few times we have been out I have started to get nervous and shy when around her, it doesn't make any sense? because you care what she thinks of you. 1
Author sjh2156 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Of course I care what she thinks of me, I always have. But its just the going from happy dating in the early stages to feeling nervous and shy later on which does not make much sense, I would of thought it would be the other way around.
NiceGuyDTW Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Of course I care what she thinks of me, I always have. But its just the going from happy dating in the early stages to feeling nervous and shy later on which does not make much sense, I would of thought it would be the other way around. From what you said...perhaps the talk of the future and her desire for the relationship to go to the next level is what's making you nervous??
mustangguy29 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Of course I care what she thinks of me, I always have. But its just the going from happy dating in the early stages to feeling nervous and shy later on which does not make much sense, I would of thought it would be the other way around. You have put her up on a pedestal. Either take her off of it, or remind yourself how awesome you are, and that you deserve to have a woman like this in your life. 2
Author sjh2156 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 The future talk may have been a bit of a trigger for the feelings, but I can definitely see a bright future with her, maybe I am falling for her too quick. I am wondering if it is worth talking about the possible future with her, maybe it is too soon to have that chat and I should just wait to see where this goes. Ok maybe she is on a bit of a small pedestal and I need to take her of that.
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Based on what you wrote, it sounds like you have anxiety about the future.
Author sjh2156 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Maybe I am a bit anxious about the future, I guess going from being long term single with all the freedom that comes with that and potentially moving into a long term relationship it is a big change.
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