cargirl71 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Why does my brain hurt? My ex, ( who I passion tally loved for 5 years) emailed me, after 2 years. The email was The dog is on its last leg, my dad is sick, i'm consumed with taking care of my parents, but he was kind in the end wishing me all the best, and he apologized for how he handled things. and asked if I could forgive him so we could both get on with our lives...ok thats not a prob. forgiveness is a gift. he sent pics of himself (I asked) but also included pics of us together?? a few short emails nothin heavy, but boom nothing for 3 months. My brain is retarded with thinking of him and how should I take what he wrote, I have read the email's over and over...I am a gullible person and dont know if people are true or messing with me helppppp...
CC12 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I doubt he was messing with you. Frankly, it probably had very little to do with you. Him contacting you was strictly for his own selfish reasons. He wanted you to forgive him so he had one less thing weighing on his conscience and making him feel badly. You forgave him so he got what he wanted. I know this is a really harsh and cynical opinion, but I think it's unfortunately somewhat common for people to contact their exes to give apologies or whatever. And it's almost never for the benefit of the ex, it is for purely selfish reasons. It's, "I want to say sorry and I want her to accept my apology so I can stop feeling crappy about treating her poorly...and, uh, maybe it might make her feel better, too." It's just so self-absorbed. It assumes that the ex needs your apology in order to move on with her life, as if she weren't perfectly happy having no contact with you. They don't care about potentially opening old wounds for the other person. Well, that got kind of ranty. Sorry, OP. It sucks that he did that to you. Put the emails in a folder that you'll never see, or just delete them entirely. Stop looking at them. He hasn't spoken to you for three months, so he doesn't want to get back together with you. Just move on, and you might want to think about blocking his emails and other means of communication if it's going to mess with your head like this. Take care. 1
FailedFirstLove Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Why does my brain hurt? My ex, ( who I passion tally loved for 5 years) emailed me, after 2 years. The email was The dog is on its last leg, my dad is sick, i'm consumed with taking care of my parents, but he was kind in the end wishing me all the best, and he apologized for how he handled things. and asked if I could forgive him so we could both get on with our lives...ok thats not a prob. forgiveness is a gift. he sent pics of himself (I asked) but also included pics of us together?? a few short emails nothin heavy, but boom nothing for 3 months. My brain is retarded with thinking of him and how should I take what he wrote, I have read the email's over and over...I am a gullible person and dont know if people are true or messing with me helppppp... It's hard to not analyze things that people say to you... I completely get that. But sometimes we think too much of it. When really they don't mean anything. I'm guessing he may just have felt bad after all that time. Sometimes people take time for it to sink in...
Ordinaryday Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Call me bitter but I would not reply to it at all, I would just ignore it. If an ex dumped me then they may be feeling 'guilty' about it or whatever, but that guilt won't be anywhere near as bad as how them dumping me makes me feel! and the last thing I am going to do is ease their conscience by letting them know I am 'okay with it' and things are 'cool between us'. If they don't want me in their lives then they have every right to dump me. But don't expect me to ease your conscience by letting you know I am okay with it. I'm not. Does that sound bitter? Probably. I don't care. 2
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