Armymanis Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Hey guys, I have been having issues with my best friend for months now. He does not like it that I have a girlfriend. He doesn't know her at all and he thinks that she is not paying for her share of our activities when she does. I do not know why my family, and my best friend thinks my girl is so bad. Just because they never see her doesnt mean shes a bad person. My family has seen her once. We don't want to make this public yet because of all the drama and I only told my best friend and my family because I thought I could trust them to keep there mouths shut. So far my best friend has not made this public yet. He does not understand the word slow when it comes to relationships. He always goes fast and ends up getting his heart broken where I on the other hand am trying to go slow with my girlfriend and not put any pressure on her. Maybe it was a big mistake to tell my best friend and I should not tell them anything from here on out because all it does is lead to drama. He says I am too attached to this girl and I told him i am not. I told him I would give her 6 months and see how she does with being my girlfriend just to shut him up. Was I in the wrong to do that? He won't stop bugging me. I don't bug him about his relationships so why does he have to get involved in mine?
charlietheginger Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 He is jealous. In highschool my bestfriend got a girlfriend i was jealous we used To lift weights , surf ,hangout. He was happy with her but after about 6 months He missed our friendship and we hung out more He married her has 2 kids. Still good friends. I know what your guy friend is going through You guys did all kinds if stuff together now you Dont
clia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Something sounds fishy to me... Has he articulated why he doesn't like your girlfriend? Has he met her? Has your family told you why they don't like your girlfriend? We don't want to make this public yet because of all the drama and I only told my best friend and my family because I thought I could trust them to keep there mouths shut. What drama? Why is there any drama? You said in your previous thread you've been together six months -- so you've been dating in secret all this time? I don't get it. Is she married? Is this the girl you are spending $1,000 on for a Valentine's Day present, per your previous thread? Is this the girl who won't let you be her "official boyfriend" (your own words) and doesn't want you to ask who she is with and what she is doing when you aren't around? Maybe they are concerned you are being played.
veggirl Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 did you dump the chick that used you for money and acted like a 5 yr old? maybe they assume this new (?) girl is doing the same thing cause you have...interesting...taste? introduce them to her if she is so nice and lovely, why are you hiding her away?
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I dont know why you care what your friends think. Friends often have their own motives in matters like these I have friends with boyfriends I dont like and as long as they are happy with them I dont care. I have friends with boyfriends that make them miserable and I do care about that but you cannot change anyone. The fact that you havent made it public suggests you arent all that committed to her...so Im really not getting why you care what your friends think
rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Your family and best friend are seeing something that you aren't. You, being in the relationship, will only think of reasons why you like your girlfriend. Them, being people who love and care about you, will think of reasons why they do not like her. So put some time aside and ask yourself a few questions: (1) What are some things you do not like about her? Will they present significant problems in the short and long-run? (2) Does she like you back? Many girls date a guy because he showers her with gifts and attention. Is she one of those? Good luck!
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Bros over hoes! haha jk Way to keep degrading and sexist cliches alive ImperfectionisBeauty.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Armymanis, it's hard to figure out exactly what is going on based on the information you gave. Your best friend could be jealous about the time he thinks she will be taking away from you spending time with him. Sometimes when we have close friends, when they begin having significant relationships with others, it can be threatening. Have you ever asked your family why they don't think she is a good girlfriend for you? Next time your best friend mentions it, tell him that you think it's cool that he is looking out for you but you can make your own choices. If it turns out to be a mistake, then it's *you* mistake. And if it turns out well, then all is good. Tell him that you let him make his own relationships choices and you'd like it if he could do the same for you.
Nyla Posted February 3, 2013 Posted February 3, 2013 Way to keep degrading and sexist cliches alive ImperfectionisBeauty. She said she was joking.
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