Will she ever come home..?

[Beier11]

Hey everyone, I'm a first time poster on here but I have been reading forums since she left just a week ago. I find a little comfort in the advice I read so I thought maybe I could share my story and get advice directly.

 

We have been together for 3 years and the last yeah has been a little rocky. But we always worked through it and made it work. The last time she left me I waited for her and did anything I possibly could for her. After we had gotten back together she told me how grateful she was that I never gave up.. We also have a beautiful 1 and a half year old daughter together. About a week ago she came home from work (I don't work because I was always home with our daughter and we couldn't afford day care) and said she wanted to talk. She told me she was becoming unhappy because of my depression. I was depressed about being stuck in the house and having no life, always feeling insignificant and overwhelmed.. She stated she was thinking about staying with her mom for a couple days. That's when I got mad.. I told her if she is having thoughts about leaving she should just do it. She came back into our home and packed a bag for her and our daughter... I begged her not to go, I new I reacted the wrong way. I pleaded with her but she was leaving any ways. After she left she said we weren't broken up, just seperated. I tried to get her to come home but she wouldn't and she told me she was done. She has been very cold and emotionless about the whole thing and she gets mad when I bring anything up about being a family and working through this. She said that I am to emotionally dependent on her. She said in order for her to think about coming back I would need to be happy alone.. I know she is talking to other guys already and having fun being single. I have lost 13 lbs from not being able to eat and being physically sick over the stress of it all. She is 20 and I'm 24. I don't have much of a support system, we moved closer to her family because she wasn't happy living close to mine. I don't have many friends around here and I don't have it in me to up and leave my daughter behind..Her and I had been talking about marriage and she even told me the style ring she wanted. 3.5ct sapphire with diamonds around it on a white gold band... Well I bought it around Christmas and had planned on proposing New Year's Eve. We ended up drinking and it wouldn't have felt right to ask while in that state so I was waiting for valentines day. But all of this happened.. I'm terrified I'm pushing her away. We can't do NC because of our daughter. I don't know what to do.. I miss her and just want my life back, I want my family back.. Help?

[numberone]

I am sorry to see that no one has helped you through this but I will. She said that you need to be happier alone. She is being too critical, but all in all, at the end of the day you guys have a daughter. Its simple, do whatever it takes to save your relationship, especially your daughter. I am sorry you are having to go through this. My ex actually left me a few days due to be being dependent on her. She thought I couldn't be happy without her, so she left when she figured i was getting too comfortable and that I wouldn't take anything else but the relationship serious. Show her this, go out have fun, make sure you come home and treat your daughter well, but as far as giving her attention, let her know you love her. Don't make yourself hurt, you'll dig a grave for yourself and she will see that she was right about you. Girls want a stable person, even if you are a good guy, even if you have a family with them. If worst scenario she can't get that, move on with your daughter, and show her how terrible of a person she is for being too critical. Either way you win. Just do anything it takes for your daughter.