Navajo46 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 When my ex and i broke up like 2 years ago she was still living at my place. I approached her about it and then we mutually decided to go our own way. After i thought more about it i talked to her a few times and convinced who that if she just opened herself up to me more that we would be great... She is pretty closed off. She ended up seeing some guy and then came back after two months. I feel like i convinced her. Next two years were great but again something was missing for her and her boss had been laying it on thick Im sure with promises and i care for yous etc. it seems she is so easily convinced of things that people are telling her rather than their actions. I did everything for her... Was her emotional and financial support and was always there for her, cared for her son etc. is that just plain immaturity? I know she is an extremely immature person do to having a kid so young... He is 16 now and she is 33.
Ladybugz Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 are normal? cause a boss cant be 16 years old. i think you got a mental issue here get a life
cherepaha Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 are normal? cause a boss cant be 16 years old. i think you got a mental issue here get a life Im pretty sure he is talking about her kid, not her boss 1
Chi townD Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 You misread what he wrote. He gave her everything, roof over her head and cared for her and her 16 year old SON. Her boss comes along and whispers sweet nothings in her ear and the OP is thrown under the bus. He was trying to gage her maturity level considering that she has been making bad choices throughout her life. Like having a 16 year old SON while she's only 33 years old.
Coping Vortex Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 When my ex and i broke up like 2 years ago she was still living at my place. I approached her about it and then we mutually decided to go our own way. After i thought more about it i talked to her a few times and convinced who that if she just opened herself up to me more that we would be great... She is pretty closed off. She ended up seeing some guy and then came back after two months. I feel like i convinced her. Next two years were great but again something was missing for her and her boss had been laying it on thick Im sure with promises and i care for yous etc. it seems she is so easily convinced of things that people are telling her rather than their actions. I did everything for her... Was her emotional and financial support and was always there for her, cared for her son etc. is that just plain immaturity? I know she is an extremely immature person do to having a kid so young... He is 16 now and she is 33. My ex did something similar. She went to a bar with her friends and some guy flirted with her. Next thing you know she BU with me and is now in love with him after only a few weeks. (its been 11 weeks so far). We had no issues outside of her wanting me to move in with her. But our feelings for each other will still intense so there is no other reason she should have initiated the BU. I know my ex had self esteem because she put me on a pedestal as well, due to her verbally abusive ex husband. She never thought someone like would want to be with her. makes no sense I know. What you have here with her is a case of low self esteem. The draw of attention from someone especially in a power position is a great draw to women with low self esteem. They are blown away that someone like that would even be interested in them. As a result they give up happiness, security history and loving partner just to chase the high of the validation from someone they feel is above them on some sort of scale. And they fall quickly. They attach quickly. And there is no reasoning with them. Someone like her will always be chasing that urge. Its best you move on. Unless you can convince her to go to counseling but in my experiences Women with Low Self esteem have no idea that have it.
Author Navajo46 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 are normal? cause a boss cant be 16 years old. i think you got a mental issue here get a life Get a life??? Learn to read.
Author Navajo46 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 My ex did something similar. She went to a bar with her friends and some guy flirted with her. Next thing you know she BU with me and is now in love with him after only a few weeks. (its been 11 weeks so far). We had no issues outside of her wanting me to move in with her. But our feelings for each other will still intense so there is no other reason she should have initiated the BU. I know my ex had self esteem because she put me on a pedestal as well, due to her verbally abusive ex husband. She never thought someone like would want to be with her. makes no sense I know. What you have here with her is a case of low self esteem. The draw of attention from someone especially in a power position is a great draw to women with low self esteem. They are blown away that someone like that would even be interested in them. As a result they give up happiness, security history and loving partner just to chase the high of the validation from someone they feel is above them on some sort of scale. And they fall quickly. They attach quickly. And there is no reasoning with them. Someone like her will always be chasing that urge. Its best you move on. Unless you can convince her to go to counseling but in my experiences Women with Low Self esteem have no idea that have it. You are absolutely right. She is an attention whore who needs it badly. I gave it to her but wasnt good enough bottom line. Would have happened sooner or later thats for sure... Time to move on.
Coping Vortex Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 You are absolutely right. She is an attention whore who needs it badly. I gave it to her but wasnt good enough bottom line. Would have happened sooner or later thats for sure... Time to move on. Exactly I knew my ex needed validation she was scarred from her ex husband from him putting her down all the time. I praised her incessantly over the years. I was always there for her. But in the end the self esteem monster is just something you can't fight. Your ex will get attention form someone else and this new guys will be in the same spot you are in now and will wonder what happened as well. It will go on and on. The last thing she should do is get married she will surely cheat every time she needs new validation.
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