princessjulieanne Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 I met a man online last October we chatted a few times but nothing serious as he lived about an hour away. Shortly after that I started dating a man closer to me and we dated until March. During this time my online friend and I emailed each other occasionally about every two weeks or so, just a hi how are you he knew I was seeing someone. My boyfriend and I broke up in March by mutual agreement and on good terms. By this time my internet friend was seeing someone so again we continued just emailing occasionally. We chatted online a couple of weeks ago and I asked how it was going with his girlfriend. He said not good and that he liked her but that it wasn't going to go any further. They are going to Cancun in September for a week and after that he plans to end it and would have sooner had it not been for the trip. Last week on his way to see her (he passes my town) he stopped to see me (with my ok) and it was only a 5 minute visit or so and we just hugged casually goodbye. That was on Friday night, after he stayed at her house for the weekend he stopped on Sunday again. This time there was some kissing but nothing heavy duty. The topic of things going further has come up in our phone calls the last few days. My problem is I'm feeling like the "other woman" even though nothing has happened and I think we shouldn't see each other until after he has ended it with this other woman but I'm afraid if I put him off until then he will think I'm not interested. I guess the other worry is I feel as if I've know him for a long time but I don't really know him at all and worried he may be a "player". Sorry its so long, any advice would be appreciated.
overseas2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Posted August 26, 2004 Yeah you know him.... you know what he wants you to know. ... you know what he has spoon fed you. But you haven't had more than 5 minutes or so of time to really observe for yourself who he is. And that is what you need. I would not stop seeing him but I would not let it go further sexually. Tell him that you would like to get to know him better, continue your friendship, and possibly take it further, but you obviously dont want to play second fiddle to someone else. See what happens. If he really breaks up then you have a shot. But dont let yourself get all involved. You may be right... he may be a player. The last thing you need.
Author princessjulieanne Posted August 26, 2004 Author Posted August 26, 2004 Yes your 100% right, guess I just wanted confirmation of my intuition. I often pull away in relationships if I feel I'm going to get hurt and was worried I was overreacting this time and just having a case of nerves. But my "spidey" sense usually doesn't lead me wrong. Thanks for the great advice always good to get a 2nd opinion. Will let you know how it goes.
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