pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 People who think others are judgmental are judgmental. That is probably the most stupid word I've heard all day. No, make that in my lifetime. Judgmental.. Please, everyone is judgmental. We judge all day long. Virgins should stay far far away from people like you Actually, people like you are why my remaining virgin friends are afraid to have sex even though they want to...you make it seem like its a huge stigma and their lizard brain will take over once they have sex
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 If I'm single and dating a cute girl and we have sex and then I find out she was a virgin, am I going to be angry? If I'm single and dating a cute guy and we have sex and it's really awkward because he is a virgin and made up his experiences when we talked about past relationships, am I going to be angry?
AlexDP Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Virgins should stay far far away from people like you Actually, people like you are why my remaining virgin friends are afraid to have sex even though they want to...you make it seem like its a huge stigma and their lizard brain will take over once they have sex Yes. It's not that there a million factors involved, such as social awkwardness, less than stellar bodies, not meeting the right person at the right time or being scared to make the first move. It's none of that. It's me. I admit it. I'm why virgins exist. 1
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Virgins should stay far far away from people like you Actually, people like you are why my remaining virgin friends are afraid to have sex even though they want to...you make it seem like its a huge stigma and their lizard brain will take over once they have sex Crikey. He is on your side.
AlexDP Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 If I'm single and dating a cute guy and we have sex and it's really awkward because he is a virgin and made up his experiences when we talked about past relationships, am I going to be angry? Probably not. I think you'll laugh it off. You won't say that here, obviously. But you'll laugh it off and tell him you'll help him get better. And then, in a week or so, you have great sex.
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Probably not. I think you'll laugh it off. You won't say that here, obviously. But you'll laugh it off and tell him you'll help him get better. And then, in a week or so, you have great sex. That would depend on how old he was and why he was a virgin.
AlexDP Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 That would depend on how old he was and why he was a virgin. If there was something genuinely wrong with him, don't you think you would have picked up on that way before you had sex? I mean, obviously a smooth talking narcissist isn't going to have trouble talking women into bed, so he wouldn't have been a virgin in the first place. If he is a virgin and you decide to sleep with him, you already know he's not that bad.
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Crikey. He is on your side. No hes not. He said all virgins, even older and more mature ones, will go PSYCHO after they lose it. The person's expectations, personality and maturity make no difference. Once they lose it, no matter who they are, all will become super clingy. That is the opposite of what I think. Some will, but not all My best friend at home lost it to a guy and when she later down the road, didnt want to keep seeing him he said "you idiot you lost your virginity to me" not all girls are like that
AlexDP Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 No hes not. He said all virgins, even older and more mature ones, will go PSYCHO after they lose it. That is the opposite of what I think. Some will, but not all Is that because the words "generally" and "lots" are now synonymous with "all"? I apologize for my lack of knowledge regarding the English language.
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 If there was something genuinely wrong with him, don't you think you would have picked up on that way before you had sex? I mean, obviously a smooth talking narcissist isn't going to have trouble talking women into bed, so he wouldn't have been a virgin in the first place. If he is a virgin and you decide to sleep with him, you already know he's not that bad. Yes I would but then this is the part you aren't supposed to discuss on threads like this because then it's about their social skills and not about a physical 'stigma'. My original response to the OP's post was that he wouldn't be able to hide his virginity because of his anxiety would make it obvious. This is when I got called evil. There is an exception: cultural reasons for virginity. I dated an Indian (South Asian) guy and while he had one girlfriend before he met me, he wasn't that well versed in sex and culturally his views on women and sex were very different. It was a complete disaster and I got fed up with him quickly. It was very subtle and deeply ingrained. Related to his physical experiences with women though for sure. However he wasn't socially awkward in any shape or form.
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Is that because the words "generally" and "lots" are now synonymous with "all"? I apologize for my lack of knowledge regarding the English language. Ehhh I know more than a handful of virgins, male and female, that didnt go psycho after it...Id say its 50/50. guys who have these experiences and say virgins go psycho make me laugh- they pick women who are overly emotional and clearly attach sex with love
AlexDP Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Ehhh I know more than a handful of virgins, male and female, that didnt go psycho after it...Id say its 50/59. guys who have these experiences and say virgins go psycho make me laugh- they pick women who are overly emotional and clearly attach sex with love Yes, and besides, their experiences aren't yours. And your experiences are obviously true. So theirs must be false. Ergo, virgins don't go psycho.
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 they pick women who are overly emotional and clearly attach sex with love isn't that why they are virgins though in the first place?
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 isn't that why they are virgins though in the first place? Wow... The virgins I know who were still virgins by the age of 23 were virgins because of being too busy and not focusing on dating, because they were overweight and did not have options and then eventually became hot, religious reasons (the guys I know), one was because she had cancer until she was 20... Tons of overly emotional women lose it very young. Id say they are more likely because they think with their emotions and not their head. My younger sister is more rational like me and she has never had a guy successfully talk her into sleeping with him (shes 17)
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Wow... The virgins I know who were still virgins by the age of 23 were virgins because of being too busy and not focusing on dating, because they were overweight and did not have options and then eventually became hot, religious reasons (the guys I know), one was because she had cancer until she was 20... Tons of overly emotional women lose it very young. Id say they are more likely because they think with their emotions and not their head. My younger sister is more rational like me and she has never had a guy successfully talk her into sleeping with him (shes 17) ok then I'm not sure what you are doing in this thread because this where older virgins are discussed, probably anyone over 25???
animalover Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 ok then I'm not sure what you are doing in this thread because this where older virgins are discussed, probably anyone over 25??? By the way Emilia, you would do good avoiding virgins.... they usually have values and that can be contagious!
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 ok then I'm not sure what you are doing in this thread because this where older virgins are discussed, probably anyone over 25??? I know 3 virgins over the age of 25. One is a girl Im friends with who was really overweight until last year. Now she looks super hot because she works her ass off. Another is my cousin, who is akward and probably has some form of autism, he doesnt care hes a virgin though. The other one is a girl who has options but she does way too much in her life and everytime she tries to date somewhat seriously, cannot handle it. Virgins who are waiting for that special someone (dont know any over the age of 25) prob will get clingy.
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 By the way Emilia, you would do good avoiding virgins.... they usually have values and that can be contagious! And what values would those be? Humour me
animalover Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 And what values would those be? Humour me not screwing anything that moves?
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 not screwing anything that moves? Ah! So the options are: being a virgin or being a complete slut who sleeps with anyone. Any other options out there guys? Anything between 0 lovers and 1000 lovers?
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I know 3 virgins over the age of 25. One is a girl Im friends with who was really overweight until last year. Now she looks super hot because she works her ass off. Another is my cousin, who is akward and probably has some form of autism, he doesnt care hes a virgin though. The other one is a girl who has options but she does way too much in her life and everytime she tries to date somewhat seriously, cannot handle it. Virgins who are waiting for that special someone (dont know any over the age of 25) prob will get clingy. The thing is whether people wait for a special someone or just put other things before building relationship skills are in a difficult position because there is a lot of competition from those with more experience - and I don't mean sexual experience. Dating is very important aspect of interpersonal skills and the more clued up you are the more likely you get picked - or the complete opposite. Virginity is usually an indication of lacking a certain level of interpersonal experience and to be honest, most of us would just rather not go there. I dated inexperienced guys the last few years and it wasn't fun simply because often they were clueless when it came to romantic relationship nuances.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I think there's a difference between lying about being a virgin and simply not divulging that fact. The only real thing a sexual partner needs to know is that you're STD-free.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 The thing is whether people wait for a special someone or just put other things before building relationship skills are in a difficult position because there is a lot of competition from those with more experience - and I don't mean sexual experience. Dating is very important aspect of interpersonal skills and the more clued up you are the more likely you get picked - or the complete opposite. Virginity is usually an indication of lacking a certain level of interpersonal experience and to be honest, most of us would just rather not go there. I dated inexperienced guys the last few years and it wasn't fun simply because often they were clueless when it came to romantic relationship nuances. Would you suggest that an inexperienced guy or gal get a "practice boyfriend or girlfriend" to gain some of that experience?
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Would you suggest that an inexperienced guy or gal get a "practice boyfriend or girlfriend" to gain some of that experience? I suggest that they go and date people
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I suggest that they go and date people That doesn't jive with the post I quoted from you...
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