Geiss Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I'm an older adult virgin and I've had my chances in the past but I have turned them down from one reason to another. I've pretty much done everything else, well not everything since there is some kinky stuff out there but I'm wondering if you don't say anything about being a virgin which I won't will you be able to tell. Perhaps a younger virgin it might be possible but an older male virgin that does know somewhat what to do. I've made girls pretty excited just by kissing them and feeling them. I was so close to doing it but I had way too much anxiety at the time. I mean we were naked in bed together, it doesn't get much closer than that. Basically can I fake not being a virgin? I don't want anyone to know. Until maybe afterwards. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Yes you can fake it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
monicaelise Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 The risk of course is that you may just seem like a really bad lay. I'd prefer a partner tell me up front that he's a virgin rather than leave me wondering whether he has a tendency to go off too quickly all the time (this is a serious problem for a lot of male virgins, many of them don't even make it to their intended target the first time) or thinking that he just doesn't know what he's doing. Anyone that will penalize you for being a virgin isn't worth wasting your load on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I guess it's time for me to chime in with my obligatory DON'T LIE post. Op, DON'T LIE! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I'm an older adult virgin and I've had my chances in the past but I have turned them down from one reason to another. I've pretty much done everything else, well not everything since there is some kinky stuff out there but I'm wondering if you don't say anything about being a virgin which I won't will you be able to tell. Perhaps a younger virgin it might be possible but an older male virgin that does know somewhat what to do. I've made girls pretty excited just by kissing them and feeling them. I was so close to doing it but I had way too much anxiety at the time. I mean we were naked in bed together, it doesn't get much closer than that. Basically can I fake not being a virgin? I don't want anyone to know. Until maybe afterwards. I have more fo a problem with a guy who wouldn't trust me enough to tell me the truth....virginity isnt a disease that is catching herpes is.it isn't even a flaw to be a virgin at any age....its commendable........i would prefer to know a guy was a virgin.......than to be lied too why hide it....there is no reason too.........deb Link to post Share on other sites
Astra5 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Be Open. Be honest. And dont hide it!!!! Celebrate it instead and find the right woman who is more than happy to take that gift from you Link to post Share on other sites
Lani Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 It depends on what you want. If you're with someone, and you want something long term, then I think you should tell. Because, as monicaelise said, you may just seem like a total dud in bed and then it might ruin any future hookups with that person. If you're just looking to bang someone and get it over with, then yeah, you can fake it for sure. It's pretty obvious what needs to go where. Link to post Share on other sites
chrisftw Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 easy to fake in a non practical sense. but when it comes time to actually getting down to business. its going to be all kinds of awkward. i remember one time i had to feel around down there for the hole.. sorta like fumbling around trying to find the port to plug your cell phone charger in the dark. TMI but i thought somebody here would get a laugh at my expense. Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 easy to fake in a non practical sense. but when it comes time to actually getting down to business. its going to be all kinds of awkward. i remember one time i had to feel around down there for the hole.. sorta like fumbling around trying to find the port to plug your cell phone charger in the dark. TMI but i thought somebody here would get a laugh at my expense. So what you're telling me is if I master the ability to plug in my cell phone charger in the dark, I'll be able to fool a girl into thinking I'm not a virgin? I got some practicing to do... Link to post Share on other sites
chrisftw Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 So what you're telling me is if I master the ability to plug in my cell phone charger in the dark, I'll be able to fool a girl into thinking I'm not a virgin? I got some practicing to do... lol pretty much. in fact navigating in total darkness easily means you'll find your target. all i ended up doing at the time was sloshing around bodily fluids (from her) and making a mess of things. hopefully she thought that was some kinda of bizarre foreplay though. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 There are too many men with plenty of experience who are still duds in bed. They tend to be men who, outwardly, seem like great catches and have lots of one night stands. That's because none of the women want a repeat performance. Link to post Share on other sites
GravityMan Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 You can try to fake it, yes. However, I think many women are able to suspect with pretty good accuracy whether an adult is sexually inexperienced (long before bedroom time), just by observing the person's mannerisms, his interactions with others, how he responds to certain subjects, and so on. If you're wanting a long-term relationship with the woman, you'll probably be better off either telling the truth, or not bringing it up at all. Not lying. BTW, I think sexual "experience" is overrated to an extent. The guy who had 15 one night stands may be crappier than the other guy who had zero ONSes and 3 actual LTRs (all w/ frequent sex) over a number of years. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rushingwaters Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 If you're in a serious relationship, I don't think the girl would mind. You wouldn't have to fake it. (It's better to be honest anyway.) If you were to fake it and the girl found out, wouldn't THAT be more embarrassing than admitting to her that you are a virgin in the first place? Don't over-analyze it. I'm sure you have nothing to worry about 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Quite honestly, if there are any older adult virgins out there that I have encountered, they are very much like that movie the 40 Year Old Virgin men. As for women, I think they hide it more. I would never know of someone was or wasn't because I don't think about asking people that sort of question. Still, they are out there, but I guess I pay them no mind either way. So yes, you can fake it. Link to post Share on other sites
SJC2008 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 You can try to fake it, yes. However, I think many women are able to suspect with pretty good accuracy whether an adult is sexually inexperienced (long before bedroom time), just by observing the person's mannerisms, his interactions with others, how he responds to certain subjects, and so on. If you're wanting a long-term relationship with the woman, you'll probably be better off either telling the truth, or not bringing it up at all. Not lying. BTW, I think sexual "experience" is overrated to an extent. The guy who had 15 one night stands may be crappier than the other guy who had zero ONSes and 3 actual LTRs (all w/ frequent sex) over a number of years. Women will often misinterpret a man with SA as a virgin. Link to post Share on other sites
CptObvious Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 get a practice girl, or get an escort. It all depends on the money you have lying around. Link to post Share on other sites
suladas Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I faked it, if I had to do it over I would of told her first, I didn't lie just never brought it up. Because it was a relationship I had to tell her anyways, just waited a few weeks and no she had absolutely no idea and was very surprised. It really wasn't that tough to fake, ya I was nervous but a few drinks, she hasn't had sex in a long time and was nervous to it was still incredible. So much better just to tell them beforehand though. Link to post Share on other sites
rocketman122 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Be Open. Be honest. And dont hide it!!!! Celebrate it instead and find the right woman who is more than happy to take that gift from you Gift? HAHA. more like nightmare. getting in bed with a virgin is a horrible experience. you do all the work, they have no idea what to do. half the time youre trying not to hurt them. theyre not wiliing to try anything. its a royal pain in the azz and not a satisfying experience. OP, you cant fake it. itll be very obvious you have no experience. with women they can just lie there, but with men, you have to do almost all the work and you wont know what to do. the biggest problem youll have is not being able to find the hole in certain positions. "oh I didnt know it was all the way down there" will come to mind. also the fact that its your first time and you wont hold for long. oh btw, 1 good long satisfying passionate steamy phuk is better than 5 short "what? youve finished already?" times. no way you can fake. not with someone whos had a good performer. it wont happen. only thing I can say is, I hope you have a natural talent for eating puwssy! Link to post Share on other sites
KungFuJoe Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 Gift? HAHA. more like nightmare. getting in bed with a virgin is a horrible experience. you do all the work, they have no idea what to do. half the time youre trying not to hurt them. theyre not wiliing to try anything. its a royal pain in the azz and not a satisfying experience. OP, you cant fake it. itll be very obvious you have no experience. with women they can just lie there, but with men, you have to do almost all the work and you wont know what to do. the biggest problem youll have is not being able to find the hole in certain positions. "oh I didnt know it was all the way down there" will come to mind. also the fact that its your first time and you wont hold for long. oh btw, 1 good long satisfying passionate steamy phuk is better than 5 short "what? youve finished already?" times. no way you can fake. not with someone whos had a good performer. it wont happen. only thing I can say is, I hope you have a natural talent for eating puwssy! Geez, lets not give the guy a complex or anything..... Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 If this is someone you have casually dated and you are on say date 3 and sex seems possible do not say anything. there is too much of a risk. Besides she will likely assume you are not a virgin if you are over 30. If you guys have dated for a longer period of time and you seem to be much more closer you can tell her. If you tell them before you date that you are a virgin they will run from you likr the plague. Link to post Share on other sites
bac Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I'm an older adult virgin and I've had my chances in the past but I have turned them down from one reason to another. I've pretty much done everything else, well not everything since there is some kinky stuff out there but I'm wondering if you don't say anything about being a virgin which I won't will you be able to tell. Perhaps a younger virgin it might be possible but an older male virgin that does know somewhat what to do. I've made girls pretty excited just by kissing them and feeling them. I was so close to doing it but I had way too much anxiety at the time. I mean we were naked in bed together, it doesn't get much closer than that. Basically can I fake not being a virgin? I don't want anyone to know. Until maybe afterwards. You do not have to tell a girl that. It is impossible to figure out that unless you have never watched a porno. Link to post Share on other sites
irc333 Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 This begs the question, if you decide not to have sex with someone who is a virgin, because they are a virgin, how do you expect them to to get the experience? Kind of like applying for credit, when you don't have any. Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 You know in a perfect world I would say dont lie and youll find a woman who will love and accept you the way you are... But alas, in this world you will probably have to lie to not have it blow up in your face. Its much easier for a guy to fake being a virgin than a girl so I say go for it, lie! To be honest many women will be turned off. I wouldnt, but most women prob would Link to post Share on other sites
pbjbear Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 This begs the question, if you decide not to have sex with someone who is a virgin, because they are a virgin, how do you expect them to to get the experience? Kind of like applying for credit, when you don't have any. I agree...I have virgin female friends that got turned down all the time by men and they had to start lying to get sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted January 30, 2013 Share Posted January 30, 2013 I was so close to doing it but I had way too much anxiety at the time. I mean we were naked in bed together, it doesn't get much closer than that. Basically can I fake not being a virgin? I don't want anyone to know. Until maybe afterwards. Because of your anxiety, probably not since that's the cause in the first place. Link to post Share on other sites
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