amolya Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 So I frequently visit this food market thing, and one day went to the fish stall, had some banter with the 2 guys there, who r pretty flirty, and one asked for a recipe, making me promise i'd come back to give it to him. Anyway 2 weeks later I'm back, and write the recipe down for him and his friend tells me to put my number down so i do. He says he'll call me, but doesn't that weekend, The next time couple time I see him at the market, we chat, and he keeps saying how he's gonna take me out on a date, but that he hasn't taken a girl out for a date in ten years (he was in a long term relationship for most of it) and eventually he calls me to meet up when i say i have a not so busy week. Well he picks me up, and his 2 mates (one is the friend at the market) are in the back...he apologized n said he was supposed 2 be hanging with them tonight. At first I'm a bit peeved/apprehensive, but they're all really nice and funny and we have lots of banter. We go to a casino, and his friends play poker while we chat, and grab a bite and some drinks. He suggests finding somewhere more private, so we go back to car, and fool around a bit (no sex) and then his mates are down and he drops me back home. Funnily enough, i actually really enjoyed myself, and he said he'd call me. Anyway that week i'm back at the market (on fri) , and he tells me he was going to call me to see what i was up to later, but we decide on next week. But sun morning I'm in town so text to see what he's doing. He was sleeping, so he called me in the afternoon and said he was with his friends, and what am I doing later (and that he can try and get rid of his friends)...i told him dont worry about it, why don't we meet tomorrow? He told me 'sure just give me a call'. So monday rolls round, I call him at 5:30pm, no answer, so at 6 i text to say I'm free from 7:30 if he is around and wants to meet up. No reply. That was yesterday, From the start he's been bad at texting/calling, but when i see him in person or talk on the phone he seems to like me. I dont know if he is actually not that interested or he's just lazy, or doesn't really 'do' texting/calls etc. I also don;t know if he just wants sex since he initiated it on the first 'date' or wants to actually date or what? Some other facts ; i'm 22, he's 32 years old. He's a bit of a 'bad boy', has lots of stories about drunken fights, and growing weed and other stuff. Any thoughts?
D-Lish Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Some other facts ; i'm 22, he's 32 years old. He's a bit of a 'bad boy', has lots of stories about drunken fights, and growing weed and other stuff. I'm not really sure why you're giving this guy the time of day? His interest is clearly luke-warm at best. A good lesson to learn young is to respect yourself. Chasing after a guy that can't even be bothered to call you back is not respecting yourself. 1
superb Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Those aren't really hot qualities long term. 1
StanMusial Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Frankly he sounds like a loser. But to answer your question, he does not seem very interested from what you've written.
Astra5 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 He sound like a real winner.... **insert Sarcasm sign*** And he doesnt sound like he can make an effort to try and spend time with you. I would move on!!
Author amolya Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 I don;t feel like I'm 'chasing him'. I've always let him initiate contact apart from that sunday morning when I thought I'd see if he was around since I knew that week I;d be pretty busy. Truth is, I don;t want a relationship with this guy, I haven;t thought about it much, but I am attracted to him, maybe something casual would work, but I just don't know what HE wants...did he ask me out because he felt obligated since he had my number and we saw each other at the market a few times? Also, how do I deal with the situation of seeing him mat the market? I'm not going to just stop going because of him. I really just want to sort everything out, if he doesn't want to see me (for anything), that's fine, I just don;t want it to all be awkward...
rushingwaters Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 He's interested but not for a serious relationship. If that's what you want, then he's not the one. I think he's just out there chilling... looking for a girl to casually date and have fun with. It's your call.
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