starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 So I have plans with a guy that I have been casually seeing (he doesn't want a relationship), but we enjoy each others company. Am I supposed to not see him if I'm on my period and can't have sex? I'm bad with the rules for the super casual dating.
monicaelise Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 1. Having your period does not mean you can't have sex. That's entirely a matter of comfort for the both of you. 2. Ask him. He'll be able to tell you better than any of us can. 1
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 So I have plans with a guy that I have been casually seeing (he doesn't want a relationship), but we enjoy each others company. Am I supposed to not see him if I'm on my period and can't have sex? I'm bad with the rules for the super casual dating. Some guys don't mind it....tell him and see what he says.
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Some guys don't mind it....tell him and see what he says. To be honest with you, I would feel REALLY crappy if he didn't want to see me because we can't have sex. So I'm kind of too scared to see what he would say if I told him before I meet up with him.
monicaelise Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 To be honest with you, I would feel REALLY crappy if he didn't want to see me because we can't have sex. So I'm kind of too scared to see what he would say if I told him before I meet up with him. It's your period, not the plague. He'll probably be glad to hear your little visitor is still making the rounds. You'd be in far worse shape if you had to tell him you weren't having it. 1
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 It's your period, not the plague. He'll probably be glad to hear your little visitor is still making the rounds. You'd be in far worse shape if you had to tell him you weren't having it. Haha yeah, our relationship is very sexual though so I guess good test to see his reaction when I see him? I'm saying if I tell him before he probably will want to reschedule (if he did this I'd definitely not want to see him ever again)
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 To be honest with you, I would feel REALLY crappy if he didn't want to see me because we can't have sex. So I'm kind of too scared to see what he would say if I told him before I meet up with him. This is a good way.to get clarity-a turning point even. Are you becoming emotionally invested?
monicaelise Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Haha yeah, our relationship is very sexual though so I guess good test to see his reaction when I see him? That's the spirit! Besides, if you can't tell someone you're having sex with that it's that time of the month, who can you tell??
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 That's the spirit! Besides, if you can't tell someone you're having sex with that it's that time of the month, who can you tell?? I'm not worried about telling him. I'm worried that he wont want to see me if I do tell him
rocketman122 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 period sex is great. get a towel under. dont make a deal out of it. 1
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 period sex is great. get a towel under. dont make a deal out of it. i know for a fact hes not into that
monicaelise Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I'm not worried about telling him. I'm worried that he wont want to see me if I do tell him If he doesn't want to see you because of that, you need to consider whether he's worth your time. You've probably got a good thirty or so years left to deal with this so best to get used to the idea of sharing that sort of info with the people you're sharing your body with. Seriously, even if he has a problem with blood, there are a lot of other ways you can entertain each other.
stillafool Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 So I have plans with a guy that I have been casually seeing (he doesn't want a relationship), but we enjoy each others company. Am I supposed to not see him if I'm on my period and can't have sex? I'm bad with the rules for the super casual dating. If you are casually dating why are you assuming you are going to have sex. Just go out and have a good time and leave sex off the table!
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 If you are casually dating why are you assuming you are going to have sex. Just go out and have a good time and leave sex off the table! oh no i mean we are casually having sex
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 If you are casually dating why are you assuming you are going to have sex. Just go out and have a good time and leave sex off the table! I think it's casual sex though. Are you becoming emotionally invested?
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Could be a turning point in the relationship. so do i text him and see his reaction? or wait till later
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I think it's casual sex though. Are you becoming emotionally invested? not really. i do enjoy spending time with him though
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 so do i text him and see his reaction? or wait till later I'd go see him and act like it just happened lol
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I'd go see him and act like it just happened lol it did just happen!!! It's early 1
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Just go and then say something about it...idk...but like I said, I had a man who didn't mind it so it wasn't a difficult thing and I wasn't worried really. 1
rocketman122 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 i know for a fact hes not into that oh then youre in trouble. so he's going to be like the jewish religious folks who can only have sex 2 weeks out of the month? then keep that casual and find a guy who can love you whether you have red or white stuff coming outta you. meh. it might not smell the best but semen smells like bleach and sometimes like persimmon. thats a good tradeoff, no? 2
Fondue Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I'm not worried about telling him. I'm worried that he wont want to see me if I do tell him You mentioned that your relationship with him is strictly casual. Why do you care if he doesn't want to hang out with you then? It seems like a FWB thing.
superb Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 You mentioned that your relationship with him is strictly casual. Why do you care if he doesn't want to hang out with you then? It seems like a FWB thing. I don't want to accuse her of developing more than casual feelings for him but if it will upset her if he doesn't want to hang out -sex then it looks like it's moving that way on her end. Overall, I pick honesty. It's the only way to know.
Author starla33 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I don't want to accuse her of developing more than casual feelings for him but if it will upset her if he doesn't want to hang out -sex then it looks like it's moving that way on her end. Overall, I pick honesty. It's the only way to know. I know, I will be done with him shortly though anyway. SO maybe this will be a good push in that direction 1
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