Fran31 Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 I met a man who is 31, I am also 31. We have not officially gone on any dates, only met up twice. The two times we met, we did engage in physical intimacy...don't know if this is important yet. My problem is that this guy is just too focused on his work to pursue dating. He has a job which requires him to work long hours, and he does not want to seem to be distracted by dating. Perhaps he just isn't interested in pursuing me. However, as a female, I do believe it is possible to get this guy to ask me out, if I have some sort of strategy to pursue him. He is definatley what I am looking for, I just need advice on how to get him! I called him yesterday to say hello, and he expressed disappointment that he has had "no summer" due to working long hours, and just wants to get away for vacation next week. He then said he would call me when he gets back after labor day, but I have a feeling he is going to be so absorbed in work, he will forget. When he is not at work, on weekends he is off doing "guy" stuff. I am going to wait one week after labor day and if he doesn't call, I will re-follow up with him. I am a very persistant person, and I am dealing with a guy who just doesn't date! I don't want to chase him, nor do I want to give up...so I have to find some middle ground where I can let him know I want to hang out without looking desperate or putting pressure on him. I am not a deceptive or manipulative person, but I do believe that there is something to be said for selling myself and closing the deal. My goal is not to find out if this guy is the right one, or to gain a boyfriend...I just simply want to date him. I know through friends he isn't dating anyone right now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Paradise Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 You can ask him out on a date. I like it when a girl asks me out for a date. You control where and when…. You can start with a casual date to start off unless you want to rip his clothes off and charge him… Good massage can do wonders...good luck!
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