cottom Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 as most of you probably read before on here, she left me to be 'single' she was actually seeing another guy who waa nothing compared to me as all her friends told me i got this message off her earlier tbh like yeah we had fun together, but last month i have had the most fun i have ever had in my life and iv'e made some awesome friends, moving into some posh cosmo place next year with them, chris punched a wall over me haha1 hour ago*·*Sent from Web i dont want to lose you as a friend, but even goks said im a lot happier since our split, we just wernt compatible in my eyes, and takes 2 to tango, and we was on tolerance for ages chad, but you never helped and i cant help the fact i fell out of love with u, if i stayed any longer i would be cheating myself why did she do this? considering we were the perfect couple then she went uni and completely changed 4 months ago, i still love her and would want her but do nkt want her back at all anymore im moving on, shall i delete message and never reply?
geegirl Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Delete the message. Don't reply. Block on email and on FB. 1
iouaname Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yes. Delete it and don't reply. She has made it clear that she's happier without you (which: so unnecessary and obnoxious if she initiated contact with that message) and that she's not coming back, so now you just need to start the painful process of moving on.
Chi townD Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 (edited) as most of you probably read before on here, she left me to be 'single' she was actually seeing another guy who waa nothing compared to me as all her friends told me i got this message off her earlier tbh like yeah we had fun together, but last month i have had the most fun i have ever had in my life and iv'e made some awesome friends, moving into some posh cosmo place next year with them, chris punched a wall over me haha1 hour ago*·*Sent from Web i dont want to lose you as a friend, but even goks said im a lot happier since our split, we just wernt compatible in my eyes, and takes 2 to tango, and we was on tolerance for ages chad, but you never helped and i cant help the fact i fell out of love with u, if i stayed any longer i would be cheating myself why did she do this? considering we were the perfect couple then she went uni and completely changed 4 months ago, i still love her and would want her but do nkt want her back at all anymore im moving on, shall i delete message and never reply? What an EVIL BITCH!! DO NOT RESPOND TO THAT TRASH!!! I love the blame shifting, and how much my life is SOOOO much better without you in it, BUT I don't want to lose you as a friend....*puke*. That's a total oxymoron! Why the hell would you want to be friends with someone who "apparently" brought you down? Makes no damn sense. Being friends with someone that was the bane of your unhappiness? Frickin stupid.... The fact is, when people have to make it a point to literally tell you that their life is so much better without in it, they're trying to CONVINCE themselves that it is. NOT ONCE in that text was there ANY concern or questions about your well being or how you're doing. NOT ONE! Some "friend" huh....... What a f*cking BITCH!!!! Grrr... that text got me spun up. Dude, I'm telling you, if you respond to that, I'm going to hunt you down and personally smack you in the back of the head. (not really, but you get the point....DON'T RESPOND!) Edited January 29, 2013 by Chi townD 1
FearlessOne Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Please ignore her b*tchy *ss. She's obviously trying to make you feel bad and that says a lot about what kind of person she is. Delete and block her.
Author cottom Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 i followed advice and deleted the message, the thing is me and her were a perfect couple, never argued or anything, last few months i did everything for her cause she was stressed from a new uni course, id take her out, id buy her all she wanted, id taught myself all her work so i can help her with it while also finishing off an MEng...so when she says we werent compatible it really is that she convinced herself that. i just want to know what is the reason ro message me out the blue like that, she favourites me tweets occasionaly too which juat reminds me of her precense just as im getting over her im chatting to 5 girla as it is and they make me happy
bitterruin Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I would have replied "I'm happier without you in my life too. That's why I will now block you and ignore any messages from you. Have a nice life xoxo." She won't break NC after that.
Author cottom Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 its also confused me the guy she left me for, im not the tallest 5'10.5 yet hes a lot smaller than me, i have perfect muscle toning a lot of peoplr commented compared to this kid who was bulky, this guy is going bald with a shaved head and wrinkles whereas i used to model amd my hair is fine and no wrinkles. Im an aerospace engineer with a great well payong job but he is redoing first year uni after failing and he is on course to fail this year also he never turns up. I did everythig for her, i never went out once in 2 years i gave up all my froends etc cause she didnt want me having them yet this guy is a player who has sex with all girls whereas ive had 1 only before her. Hes also from the horrible part of town wjereas om from the rich area and im the atar player for the local football(soccer) team.. why give up me for him where everyone tells me im a lot better i dont gwt it
geegirl Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 its also confused me the guy she left me for, im not the tallest 5'10.5 yet hes a lot smaller than me, i have perfect muscle toning a lot of peoplr commented compared to this kid who was bulky, this guy is going bald with a shaved head and wrinkles whereas i used to model amd my hair is fine and no wrinkles. Im an aerospace engineer with a great well payong job but he is redoing first year uni after failing and he is on course to fail this year also he never turns up. I did everythig for her, i never went out once in 2 years i gave up all my froends etc cause she didnt want me having them yet this guy is a player who has sex with all girls whereas ive had 1 only before her. Hes also from the horrible part of town wjereas om from the rich area and im the atar player for the local football(soccer) team.. why give up me for him where everyone tells me im a lot better i dont gwt it You won't get it. Stop trying to anaylze her psyche. You have zero control as to why people do the things they do and you have zero ability to get inside someone's head and understand their reasoning. Just because you are better in someone else's eyes, don't create that expectation for her to view you the same. In her weird way, this guy does it for her, and it could be because she is emotionally unhealthy and immature. It sounds like it. Don't devalue yourself because she chose him. If she is choosing a guy with these traits, you have truly dodged a bullet. 1
Chi townD Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 i followed advice and deleted the message, the thing is me and her were a perfect couple, never argued or anything, last few months i did everything for her cause she was stressed from a new uni course, id take her out, id buy her all she wanted, id taught myself all her work so i can help her with it while also finishing off an MEng...so when she says we werent compatible it really is that she convinced herself that. i just want to know what is the reason ro message me out the blue like that, she favourites me tweets occasionaly too which juat reminds me of her precense just as im getting over her im chatting to 5 girla as it is and they make me happy YEP! I mean, come on! She had to have "Mok" or whoever the hell that is, to TELL her that she looks happier. Thus, you've been brought up in conversation. She has to convince herself that she made the right choice and told you about it in an "EVER SO LOVELY" text you just recieved. She starting to feel guilty about the way she treated you. Thus, the "liking" your tweets. Because, "HEY WE'RE PALS!!! WE'RE BUDS!!!! No hard feelings, right?" She would want nothing more than to get you in the friend zone. Don't fall for it. She's not your friend. And speculate that she's not done. She need to know that you don't hate her or not think that she's a nice person. However, she's so selfish, that's she'll probably try once and then that's it. Time to heal and move on dude. This witch isn't worth your time.
Jono85 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 i followed advice and deleted the message, the thing is me and her were a perfect couple, never argued or anything, last few months i did everything for her cause she was stressed from a new uni course, id take her out, id buy her all she wanted, id taught myself all her work so i can help her with it while also finishing off an MEng...so when she says we werent compatible it really is that she convinced herself that. i just want to know what is the reason ro message me out the blue like that, she favourites me tweets occasionaly too which juat reminds me of her precense just as im getting over her im chatting to 5 girla as it is and they make me happy i'm not trying to sound like a total a**, b/c a lot of us did similar (albeit maybe not that extreme) things, but it sounds like she owned your balls . you taught yourself all her work so you could help her with it?? *facepalm*. dude that's ridiculous. i hope in the future, you will learn from this. sounds like you put her before yourself at every opportunity. she may have sensed you becoming a doormat and lost attraction. i mean it's cool to take your girl out, and buy her some things, but you're not her sugardaddy. relationships should be about BOTH partners giving equally. what was she giving you??? i bet she wasn't giving you a fraction of the effort you were giving her. demand more for yourself in your next relationship.
flitzanu Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 as most of you probably read before on here, she left me to be 'single' she was actually seeing another guy who waa nothing compared to me as all her friends told me i got this message off her earlier tbh like yeah we had fun together, but last month i have had the most fun i have ever had in my life and iv'e made some awesome friends, moving into some posh cosmo place next year with them, chris punched a wall over me haha1 hour ago*·*Sent from Web i dont want to lose you as a friend, but even goks said im a lot happier since our split, we just wernt compatible in my eyes, and takes 2 to tango, and we was on tolerance for ages chad, but you never helped and i cant help the fact i fell out of love with u, if i stayed any longer i would be cheating myself why did she do this? considering we were the perfect couple then she went uni and completely changed 4 months ago, i still love her and would want her but do nkt want her back at all anymore im moving on, shall i delete message and never reply? she didn't break NC, because she's not in NC. you are the one in NC. you need to block all avenues of her contacting you to avoid her stupid messages like this.
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