siimplymee Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Hello. I'm new to this forum. I've been reading divorce stories since yesterday morning. I've been married for 4 years and I am 8 months pregnant expecting our first child. I can attest that this has been by far the worst 8 months of the 4 years. In the beginning he wasnt even excited we were pregnant. I guess you can say he's come around. I'm thinking about divorce because I feel miserable with him. It's nothing like it used to be. I feel like we've went from lovers to roommates. There's no connection,no passion,nothing. He makes me feel like I repulse him. At night he used to hold me now we sleep strictly on opposite sides of the bed. When I try to initiate sex he ignores me. If we do have sex it feels like he feels like its a chore so I don't even try anymore. He never comes on to me. I can vouche and say he has never been a sex animal so cheating isnt what I'm thinking . It's more like he's comfortable and he says our marriage isn't based on sex which I agree but as a woman and his wife I would like to feel desired. I stay at home at the moment and he works 9-5 . I spend most the day reading other ppl's stories & crying wondering how we got here. He says I love you but it just seems like its just routine to say it. I don't feel it. When he comes home from work all he does is plop in front of the TV. We haven't spoke since I tried to express my feelings the night before last. There are a host of other issues including finances, etc. I just want to make a decision while the child is still young.
Jntrs Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 better now than later, if you ask me honestly if hes not around now, i dont think he'll stick around when things get harder, like when the baby is born and stuff like that you deserve better, your baby and you are more important right now, and the stress is not good for the pregnancy stay strong
M30USA Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I spend most the day reading other ppl's stories & crying wondering how we got here. That's a problem right there. Nobody else's life is as it seems. There was even a study presented on the news about how people who use Facebook are generally more unsatisfied with their lives. Of course you would be! It should be renamed NarcissistBook. "Oh look at the million dollar diamond my husband bought me!" or "We just bought a brand new house and my husband got promoted!" Media and "other people's stories" aren't real. Everybody wakes up with the same internal struggles, the same quest for the meaning of life, same failures, and same fears. Start focusing inward instead of outward. I would recommend cutting out the internet reading in this regard while your husband is at work. (Why are you using entertainment so much while he's at work, anyway? Something to be thankful for right there...you apparently have enough leisure time while your husband works away.)
tojaz Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 How long has it been like this SM? Has it just been since the pregnancy or was it like that before? What did he say when you brought it up before he stopped speaking to you? What have you tried thus far to try and relieve the situation? TOJAZ
Author siimplymee Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 I didnt mean reading stories about others happiness but reading stories on here that are similiar to my situation. I know everything that glitters isn't gold and that ppl have the same struggles.
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