Inviv_girl Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 When you are in a relationship you made those lovey dovey promises to your partner, guy especially will make many sweet promises to his girl, make them believe that the love is forever and ever!! and then they just leave and broke the promises they made like they mean nothing.. just because of the fight.. In a relationship, fights is an impossible thing to be avoided, right? Will fight likely changed someone's feeling?? I mean can that happen later after few months someone will lost the feeling for their partner and want the break up because of the fight they have few months before?? or was it just nonsense reason for a break up? Everyone advice is welcome but Guys opinion will be much appreciated. Please help!
cavalier99 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 (edited) Hmm. I don't know about whether a fight per se can be a reason for a BU. I think some times there are critical moments/decisions/understanding points in a relationships . And if at these junctures one person doesn't appreciate how important something is for the other partner and there isn't understanding and communication after or better yet before to resolve the issue..these things can fester and be that critical ah ha moment when doubt in the longevity of the RS can start for the affected individual. Often times the other person isn't even aware how deeply this one seemingly little thing could affect the other individual. Thus the importance of communication and understanding. Or it could be a series of fights over a issue and they finally snap at the next small argument over that same thing and their outlook changes .they give up. So yes there could be that one fight or something else that one partner will take to heart in a bad way and can prove to be the beginning of the end. Not sure if what i wrote made much sense after rereading it but those are my thoughts Edited January 29, 2013 by cavalier99
th90 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Happened to me. Not only did my ex drop everything, he slept with other girl. And i blamed myself for months because i felt like it was my fault. All these come from a guy who never stopped telling me how much he loved me for 7 years. And yes it's so true that they love to make a lot of sweet promises just to break them all at once. Just so i dont get burnt by fellow LShackers who are males, girls do the same thing too. Only difference is that we dont fall into that category.
tbf Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Not a guy but if there's a lot of fighting, the positive emotions get eroded and if it continues, erodes to the level of feeling like the relationship isn't worth the effort.
Author Inviv_girl Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Hmm. I don't know about whether a fight per se can be a reason for a BU. I think some times there are critical moments/decisions/understanding points in a relationships . And if at these junctures one person doesn't appreciate how important something is for the other partner and there isn't understanding and communication after or better yet before to resolve the issue..these things can fester and be that critical ah ha moment when doubt in the longevity of the RS can start for the affected individual. Often times the other person isn't even aware how deeply this one seemingly little thing could affect the other individual. Thus the importance of communication and understanding. Or it could be a series of fights over a issue and they finally snap at the next small argument over that same thing and their outlook changes .they give up. So yes there could be that one fight or something else that one partner will take to heart in a bad way and can prove to be the beginning of the end. Not sure if what i wrote made much sense after rereading it but those are my thoughts Hmm... I dont really get it, would you please explain a lil' bit more? Thank's.
todreaminblue Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 arguments are a normal part of a relationship, they can actually benefit a relationship if you can express yourself in a manner that is reasonable and with the purpose of clearing any disagreement and expressing thought feelings adn ideals. it is when people arent willing to compromise or budge...then the issues start......i gave an ultimatum in my last relationship because it was warranted......that was the end and it didnt end on an argument. (they came later after we split)....he didnt agree with my ultimatum and i said that's it then...he said ok.......and it was the end...one fight to me is not a reason to end a relationship its not what a relationship is meant to be about..deb
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