OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Well Gina girl I've been talking to agreed to dinner Saturday but something else happen.Well I've also been talking to a girl named Cindy for about a week now who's fb I got from my friend.Problem is shes kinda scared to give the number out (red flag)She happens to go to same school my friend goes so she legit no catfish here.I then ask her today ill come Wednesday to see a girl there she played along we both knew it was her.K fast forward to Gina we talked today and laughed alot here's the ph convo Her.Hi how you doing Me.im good my fault about calling at 9 I thought u were off work Her.no it's ok I actually had class which I have twice a week Me.sounds good .how was the party Her.it was good .had lots of fun Me.I noticed no pictures in my inbox maybe they got lost heh Her.heh no I got them just wanted to wait till my friends sent me ones from Saturday but ill send them Me.sounds good hey would you like to grab dinner Saturday Her.of course sounds good Me.just clear things up its going to be us two right cuz you mentioned friends so I thought u wanted me on standby till they decide Her.no not all we can go should be fun Me-maybe you can come to the city and how's sushi sound? Her.ya ill go to the city as for sushi I don't really like that Me.well will talk about it more later ill look around see what I find Well she's fairly new to my city meaning just moved here 3 months ago.Sushi was already ruled out so ask what she would like to eat or I'm the man decide ?
Ami1uwant Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Im confused with your post---where is the twist and who is this other woman?? 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Not much of a twist guess I was kinda iffy about the girl Cindy then again my friend was friends with one of her friends.Guess its almost like blind dating although we both know what each other looks like.About Gina should I put the ball I'm her court where we eat or plan it.
Lani Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Decide on somewhere else, and check with her that she's cool with it before you book. 2
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Oh ok should I also back track and try to make it a lunch instead of a dinner.I don't mind dinner but as a first date Im unsure .I also figured if I went the dinner route kinda leaves the door if all goes well maybe show her bit of the city then again first dates I've been told shouldn't drag on.Thanks for advice
phineas Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 How about you just meet for drinks? Seriously, who does dinner for a first date on the weekend? Leave the weekend for yourself in case the woman flakes. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Well I would but I don't drink at all so maybe a lunch ?
mustangguy29 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Don't back track. Pick the restaurant, and have a backup in mind in case she doesn't like it. I agree that asking for drinks or lunch might have been better, but now that you decided on dinner, you should not back track. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Maybe ill find like a sports bar something not to crazy fancy .Ugh I wish I didn't open my mouth say the dinner word now there runs a chance of spending a lot of money to be told your a nice guy lets be friends smh . 1
mustangguy29 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Maybe ill find like a sports bar something not to crazy fancy .Ugh I wish I didn't open my mouth say the dinner word now there runs a chance of spending a lot of money to be told your a nice guy lets be friends smh . Find a dive bar or a gastro pub, somewhere cheap, but with good atmosphere, pick a place near a lot of other cool stuff to extend the date if you two are getting along. Be fun, and passionate about whatever you talk about. Make your intentions clear. Flirt with her. Don't come on heavy, just give her a few indications that you want to sleep with her, not be her best friend. At worst, you waste 1 night with her. This is a lot better than taking her out 4 times and than having her tell you how good a friend you are. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Well I asked a female friend I have and here's what she said Idk. Seems okay with me. I think movies should be grown upon. No talking or getting to know each other. Or a bar should be cause you can't talk Anyway girl could still flake will see
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 By make intentions clear do you mean let her know I'm looking for something serious ?.Ill ask my bro about a good pub place that serves food since he knows the city better then me.I was thinking about 6 as far as meeting don't want it to late cause she agreed to make the 40 min drive here .I debated about showing her around the city but I was told keep date under 2 hours if I'm not mistaken. Thanks again everyone
clia Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 By make intentions clear do you mean let her know I'm looking for something serious ?.Ill ask my bro about a good pub place that serves food since he knows the city better then me.I was thinking about 6 as far as meeting don't want it to late cause she agreed to make the 40 min drive here .I debated about showing her around the city but I was told keep date under 2 hours if I'm not mistaken. Do you really like this girl? Do you want to impress her? Then YOU drive the 40 minutes to her. Don't make her drive to you. Not impressive at all for a first date. At least make the offer to go to her along with a suggestion of a dinner place near her. If she declines, then fine -- let her drive to you. And there is no rule that a first date should be under 2 hours. Get dinner, go with the flow, and see what happens. If you are having a good time, feel free to extend it. My first date with my boyfriend went something like six or seven hours because we were having such a good time together. There are no rules written in stone here. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Well I asked her if we could do something near her but she lives in a small town not much to do there .Shes more familer with the city or maybe I can meet her half way.Im just not familer with that area and wanted to seem in charge but it did cross my mind having her drive this far may be a prick move on my part.
mustangguy29 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 By make intentions clear do you mean let her know I'm looking for something serious ?.Ill ask my bro about a good pub place that serves food since he knows the city better then me.I was thinking about 6 as far as meeting don't want it to late cause she agreed to make the 40 min drive here .I debated about showing her around the city but I was told keep date under 2 hours if I'm not mistaken. Thanks again everyone No, don't tell her you are looking something serious. What I mean by make your intentions clear is that a lot of guys, don't want to scare a girl off, so they act like they just want to be buddy's with the girl, and then end up in the friend zone. Be fun, playful, and flirt with her on the date. That should make it clear to her that you are interested in her for more than just hanging out. If she is interested, she will find a reason to touch you. You know like, "Oh your such a goof", and she shoves you lightly on the shoulder.
mustangguy29 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Well I asked her if we could do something near her but she lives in a small town not much to do there .Shes more familer with the city or maybe I can meet her half way.Im just not familer with that area and wanted to seem in charge but it did cross my mind having her drive this far may be a prick move on my part. I don't think you are being a prick. If she doesn't complain about driving to the city it is a non-issue, if she does, you can always offer to pick her up. As for date length. The first date is supposed to be short so she doesn't get bored of you, or so that if you are bored with her you don't waste a whole night. That said, if you are both having a good time, you should extend it. Having the date in a big city lets you extend it with fun options. "Want to drive 7 miles to the next fun thing" (Not very spontaneous) VS "Oh look there across the street at Such and Such, that looks fun, let's go check it out." If you really know your city, you can plan the walk back to the car, so it goes by an outdoor ice skating rink, etc., so that you just happen upon it on the way back to the car.
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 I'm gonna find out what she likes to eat then take it from there .Being in Chicago there's alot to do maybe take her to that bean statue in grant park .There is also an ice skating ring there so I'm gonna try to map it out Tomo
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Bit of an update Me-Hey how's it going Her-pretty good just sleepy ;( Me-What kinda foods you like Her-Italian,Mexican and Brazilian Me-no middle eastern well ill change that Her.haha lets see lol Me-indeed Me-I gotta call me later Her-sounds good you got it Well now ill just have to dig up some places that offer one of those 3 .So far Saturdays looking like good to go so will see *crosses fingers*
clia Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 What's your price range? Sweetwater Tavern has pretty good food and a good atmosphere and is close to the Bean. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Just checked out sweet water tavern and it seems to have some of everything plus prices are not to bad.Hows parking near there I ask cause downtowns a pain in the butt.Im glad it's near the bean not a fan of it tbh but maybe she will get a kick of it heh.So tonight when she calls ill let her know the place and make up some ya this place has some of everything Thanks
Author OCCDAVE Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 Well guess plans have changed a bit we are still on just gotta meet her half way Her-hey sorry I missed your call last night how are you Me-I'm good how about you Her-I'm good just tired Me-so we still on for Saturday Her- of course Me-sounds good we still meeting in the city right Her-if its ok I'd rather meet half way Me-ya if that's what you want Her-yep please Maybe I should have stuck to my guns watcha think?
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 Something seems off seems when I call no answer past few days .Then again she does text following morning saying sorry I missed your call or sorry I forgot to call you back .I dunno maybe I'm looking to much into it I'd just rather talk on the ph then text .
clia Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 How often are you calling? Chill out. You might scare her off. Meeting halfway isn't bad. If you want to impress her, ask if she wants you to go to her. I suggested this already. You seem way more invested than she is. Might be a good move since she has already said she doesn't want to drive all the way into he city. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted February 1, 2013 Author Posted February 1, 2013 I only once last two night before last time I called was Sunday when I made plans.I also limit the text today only sent a handful then went Mia.Shes been super tired says her nanny job these kids have been pushing her hard.Im heading over there and ya I won't lie I may have sounded to invested I won't bs ill chill out and see what unfolds
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