Should I Break NC?

[Stoic44]

Been about a month since I was "let go."

 

To recap, we dated for about three weeks, though it was a lot of physical and emotional intimacy--talking every day, banging every weekend. Certainly felt like the beginnings of a GF situation to me, though people tend to "date" these days by screwing. Two weeks in she said she didn't want a commitment, though texted on NYE that she "loves me" and "wishes I was there." Felt like she was coming around, right? Nope. Two days after that she was back with the ex.

 

When she said she was giving the ex a "second shot," I told her that rarely works out and that if she goes, she had zero chance of getting me back because I make no compromises on loyalty or trust. She said she valued trust and that's why she wanted to be honest. Wanted to be friends; I declined.

 

Not sure if I should kind of leave a small crack in the door open for her--just to say "you kind of surprised me last month; it seemed kind of sudden and different from how you had been acting... Just hope you're ok? Can't be friends, but if there's an emergency or need to talk, you know how to reach me. I'm doing great but thought I'd see how you were..."

 

And yeah, I realize with so short of a thing, she should be out of my mind by now. And it bothers me that she's not--in terms of intelligence and personality, she was the best prospect to come along in about 15 years.

Edited January 29, 2013 by Stoic44

[Simon Phoenix]

No you shouldn't send that. You said you wouldn't be friends, you need to stick to that, at least for a while. She won't care if there's a crack or not -- if she wants to get a hold of you, she'll make her own crack. And the short relationships can suck to get over because usually there's no negativity before the break. You are in the honeymoon where everything is awesome and bam, it's done. You haven't been with the person enough for them to have annoyed or upset you, so it seems sudden and blindsides you.