redrose123 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Hey everyone.. So next week is my ex's birthday and I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact him to wish him a happy birthday or just leave it be? We work together and if we run into each other we will make small talk here and there, but I'm still not 100% over him. He is dating someone new and it's still hard for me to deal with him being in a relationship. I'm worried that if I text him he either a) won't respond or b) respond but the conversation won't go anywhere and I'll be setting myself back. My birthday is a week after his so I know that if I don't wish him a happy birthday, then he probably won't wish me one. Another part of me worries that I'll feel even worse if I do send him a birthday text and he doesn't tell me happy birthday a week later. I feel silly worrying about all this, as it is just a birthday text but these will be the first birthdays I've spent without him in 3 years. It is going to feel really weird not being able to talk to him and celebrate his day with him. A part of me is still angry and doesn't want to give him the satisfaction of sending him a birthday text considering last year I had the worst birthday of my life and we broke up 2 days later. I am dreading my birthday since the "anniversary" of our break up essentially starts that day. I honestly think I should just not send him a birthday text, but I don't want to seem bitter. What do you all think? Sorry for the long, drawn out rant about this!!
Own Worst Enemy Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I know it's sickeningly hard. But really, why is a birthday so different to any of the other 364 days you're without him? If you text, you will feel worse if he replies and worse if he doesn't. If you don't text, he will notice. If he cares, good, let him miss you. If he doesn't.... Then aren't you glad you didn't text? 1
cavalier99 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Nope. No text. I know it feels small and not right. But trust us. Better not to send. You guys aren't together he has anew GF. She can text him. 1
LostOne1 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 My ex's bday was a few days ago. Did not email or contact her in anyway. I suggest you NOT contact your ex either. There is no point and it won't feel good to have them just say thanks or ignore you for saying happy bday. You guys are over and you just need to accept it. it was hard for me, but I realized the BEST revenge is to NOT text and let her enjoy her bday without me for once after 3 yrs. See what it is like without me on her bday. I'm sure she has a new b.f who will do stuff for her and that's fine. 1
Author redrose123 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Thank you all for your advice! I won't text him and I feel reall my good about that decision.
Mavrick009 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Thank you all for your advice! I won't text him and I feel reall my good about that decision. One of my serious ex's bday is today. I texted the first couple yrs. ("trying to be courteous and nice") You won't truly enjoy any response they do (or dont) give. No true closure happens and will leave you with more questions... and more heartache. The posts before mine, I really agree with.
flitzanu Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Hey everyone.. So next week is my ex's birthday and I'm not sure what to do. Should I contact him to wish him a happy birthday or just leave it be? We work together and if we run into each other we will make small talk here and there, but I'm still not 100% over him. He is dating someone new and it's still hard for me to deal with him being in a relationship. I'm worried that if I text him he either a) won't respond or b) respond but the conversation won't go anywhere and I'll be setting myself back. My birthday is a week after his so I know that if I don't wish him a happy birthday, then he probably won't wish me one. Another part of me worries that I'll feel even worse if I do send him a birthday text and he doesn't tell me happy birthday a week later. I feel silly worrying about all this, as it is just a birthday text but these will be the first birthdays I've spent without him in 3 years. It is going to feel really weird not being able to talk to him and celebrate his day with him. A part of me is still angry and doesn't want to give him the satisfaction of sending him a birthday text considering last year I had the worst birthday of my life and we broke up 2 days later. I am dreading my birthday since the "anniversary" of our break up essentially starts that day. I honestly think I should just not send him a birthday text, but I don't want to seem bitter. What do you all think? Sorry for the long, drawn out rant about this!! no you do not contact him about his birthday.
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