quietGuy13 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I've never had a date or kiss. I'm in my 30s. I'm getting old and i feel there will not be anymore time to find love. Once you're past 30 , is finding love life pretty much impososible? Some people say it's possible at any age but i dont think so. The women who want are past 30..are already experienced and mature and if they want to find love they want someone with experience. They themselves have probably had few boyfriends and had experience( I know this because most women can get BFs much easier than men do and so usually women always have experience of having had a BF) So they not gonna want a 30 year old guy who is barerly attempting to date and who is clumsy and shy with women
ChessPieceFace Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Raise your status and I'm sure you can have some girls in their 20's. It's not impossible just harder for us. Most women in their 30's will have kids / be divorced and that doesn't seem like a level playing field for someone with no experience.
troywillis12 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Become a Christian, allow god to guide you, you'll find a cute Christian girl
Chs Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 ( I know this because most women can get BFs much easier than men do and so usually women always have experience of having had a BF) Not true at all, men can get a girlfriend just as if not easier than women. 1
mustangguy29 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I've never had a date or kiss. I'm in my 30s. I'm getting old and i feel there will not be anymore time to find love. Once you're past 30 , is finding love life pretty much impososible? People are ending and beginning relationships all the time of all ages. I have a friend that is a 50 year old guy with a couple kids and is not wealthy, and he just got married again. The women who want are past 30..are already experienced and mature and if they want to find love they want someone with experience. They themselves have probably had few boyfriends and had experience( I know this because most women can get BFs much easier than men do and so usually women always have experience of having had a BF) So they not gonna want a 30 year old guy who is barerly attempting to date and who is clumsy and shy with women Women want someone who will respect them and love them, and be a good man and boyfriend. If you can be these things it does not matter how much experience you have. Do not tell them that you have not gone out on a date in a while or that you hever never kissed a girl before. Do tell them if things get passionate that you would like to wait until the time is right, because you think sex is special. I really suggest you find a girl online and get to know her that way, to eliminate some of the initial anxiety. When you finally meet up with her, just be the best version of you that you can be, don't stress, and it will be okay. In my opinion, women can get sex and dates more easily than men, but woman cannot get commitment (as in a boyfriend) more easily than men.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Become a Christian, allow god to guide you, you'll find a cute Christian girl ... if God doesn't intervene to save the lives of starving children or people from dying from cancer or disasters, he isn't going to be your dating service. That said, christian girls are the best chance for finding a happy relationship... you just may have to deal with other things like prudishness. Guess it's always a tradeoff. In my case, even though I respect the positive nature of the belief system, I have a hard time pretending to believe in any god anymore, so that could be a wedge in any such relationship ...
pbjbear Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Women want someone who will respect them and love them, and be a good man and boyfriend. If you can be these things it does not matter how much experience you have. Do not tell them that you have not gone out on a date in a while or that you hever never kissed a girl before. Do tell them if things get passionate that you would like to wait until the time is right, because you think sex is special. I really suggest you find a girl online and get to know her that way, to eliminate some of the initial anxiety. When you finally meet up with her, just be the best version of you that you can be, don't stress, and it will be okay. In my opinion, women can get sex and dates more easily than men, but woman cannot get commitment (as in a boyfriend) more easily than men.[/QUOTE] Agree with all of this
jcrew11 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 ... if God doesn't intervene to save the lives of starving children or people from dying from cancer or disasters, he isn't going to be your dating service. That said, christian girls are the best chance for finding a happy relationship... you just may have to deal with other things like prudishness. Guess it's always a tradeoff. In my case, even though I respect the positive nature of the belief system, I have a hard time pretending to believe in any god anymore, so that could be a wedge in any such relationship ... Its not so much as having a "belief system" but I think its just a matter of joining a Church or group of people that care about your well-being in a supportive environment. Part of being single is being a lonely hermit. If you want to meet a woman or man, then join groups, clubs, activities that will let you meet fun, friendly,supportive people.
normal person Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Your time isn't up, but I think if you elaborate on your situation a little it might be easier to identify what the issue is and how you can change it.
Author quietGuy13 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 Many of you keep mentioning online dating. Will you stop!! That doesn't work. I've been in free dating sites for years and they dont even respond to my emails or chat requests. Pay site?? I did that too. never got any responses. The girls in those sites are really looking for their Ideal guy. ANd i mailed tons even the ones that were not my ideal. I emailed contacted average ones and below averages and everything. nicely sent emails. nothing. ONLINE dating doesn't work unless you have an interesting profile/interesting life or unless you're handsome
Astra5 Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Many of you keep mentioning online dating. Will you stop!! That doesn't work. I've been in free dating sites for years and they dont even respond to my emails or chat requests. Pay site?? I did that too. never got any responses. The girls in those sites are really looking for their Ideal guy. ANd i mailed tons even the ones that were not my ideal. I emailed contacted average ones and below averages and everything. nicely sent emails. nothing. ONLINE dating doesn't work unless you have an interesting profile/interesting life or unless you're handsome That sounds like a major self esteem issue. Stop being so negative.. be positive and belief in yourself... and let that come through to people you meet. When you like and love yourself you can open up to accept the same from someone else. Building walls stops people from getting in.
Author quietGuy13 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 That sounds like a major self esteem issue. Stop being so negative.. be positive and belief in yourself... and let that come through to people you meet. When you like and love yourself you can open up to accept the same from someone else. Building walls stops people from getting in. well i'm just saying that i have tried, and currently try online dating and noooooooooobody respondes ever.
chrisftw Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 i just turned 30. AND i'm still in college. yeah.. i know tell me about it. anyway i still attract 21+ year olds. hell 90% of the people i speak to on a daily basis can't even fathom that i'm 30 years old. and some still don't believe it.
rushingwaters Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 Love yourself first. If you're confident around women, they wouldn't second-guess your present-self or your future. Your past is past. Good luck!
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