Necris Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I think much of the attraction game is biological and not observable by our conscious minds. After all, this is a guy who was duped by a man acting like a woman over the phone and on the net. You would think he'd have an easier time finding a real life woman to date. Women were steering clear for a reason. They just couldn't consciously figure out what the reason was. Sometimes I think some people just aren't meant to be with anybody, sad but it may be true.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Notre Dame is one of the few schools that do not waive college admissions or other academic standards for student athletes. If you get into Notre Dame as an athlete you would have gotten in as a regular student... That's not true. They can't be total idiots like the players Alabama and Oklahoma recruit, but they don't have to be academically at the level of typical Notre Dame standards. Not even Ivy League schools are like that. You think ND could have played for the national title if all of the players on the football team were nerds in HS. They probably couldn't beat a D3 team. Considering he supposedly stayed faithful to a non-existant girlfriend he never met for 2 years, dating must be hard on him, or this is all a big joke. What I got from this thread is that some women are just picky, real picky. Yea. Me too. Most women can afford to pick their one type of guy who they are attracted to, say, for one of the female posters in this thread, it'd be white, above 6 foot tall, and with a handsome face. And if you don't look like that you are not attractive. They might find you attractive later based on your personality, but if you fall outside that range, forget it. Also, Manti is a Pacific Islander Asian. Women tend to think those guys are more attractive than the Asian Asians. OMG, if women don't find Manti attractive, I'm so screwed! Well, but I knew that already.
D-Lish Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Sometimes I think some people just aren't meant to be with anybody, sad but it may be true. I don't believe that. I work with a guy with an A.B.I. and a facial deformity- he's getting married next month. Granted, she also has an A.B.I, but still... 1
xxoo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Put it this way: Lots of men less physically attractive than Te'o have girlfriends. And great sex. 1
MrNate 2.0 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 In a local newspaper today Manti Teo was called "unattractive" by a young woman...when asked if was surprising he could get catfished. That is when one online "dates" a person who's not real. You can Google for any number of pictures of this gent. He looks good enough to me and at 6'2" 255 probably less than 10% body fat he's in good shape. That a woman can call him un attractive makes me think what the heck is attractive to women if that isn't? Guys around here like to tell other men to hit the gym etc. etc. he couldn't hit that any harder. I mean WTH? Can someone explain to me how someone like Teo could have this problem? Different people find different things attractive. Let's not complicate this. 3
PJKino Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Women are only really physically attracted and turned on by the top few % of men what they can get and have to settle for is another story
MrNate 2.0 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Women are only really physically attracted and turned on by the top few % of men what they can get and have to settle for is another story Top % in what? Looks? Money? Status? Power? Confidence?
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Women are only really physically attracted and turned on by the top few % of men what they can get and have to settle for is another story Yea. He's in that top %! Dude has a perfect body and an above average face. I can see how women wouldn't be attracted to his Asian features. White women typically aren't. But he is quite handsome for an Asian guy.
PJKino Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Top % in what? Looks? Money? Status? Power? Confidence? Looks.Doesnt mean all women end up with top % men what im saying is what they are turned on by just by looking at are usually the top men where men are attracted to a more variety of women at first glance then vice versa
chex Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Top % in what? Looks? Money? Status? Power? Confidence? He said physical, he means looks.
PJKino Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yea. He's in that top %! Dude has a perfect body and an above average face. I can see how women wouldn't be attracted to his Asian features. White women typically aren't. But he is quite handsome for an Asian guy. Well not to be a dick and open wounds up for certain posters but Asian and middle eastern men are usually the least desirable to women outside of their own
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Well not to be a dick and open wounds up for certain posters but Asian and middle eastern men are usually the least desirable to women outside of their own What!? Women don't like Asian men? When did this happen?! I've never known about that. Next thing I know, you'll start talking crazy like short men have it hard too.
Necris Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Put it this way: Lots of men less physically attractive than Te'o have girlfriends. And great sex. Yes, but the point was if someone like Te'o is having dating trouble, something is wrong. He's not ugly looking, considering he's at notre dame he's probably intelligent, he has the success thing going for him, etc. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps the reason some people are successful in dating and others aren't maybe because those who have terrible dating luck produce some sort of "woman repellant" to prevent women from being attracted to them. And on the flip side I see guys who don't do anything, they don't even have to approach women, but women just come to them.
PJKino Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yes, but the point was if someone like Te'o is having dating trouble, something is wrong. He's not ugly looking, considering he's at notre dame he's probably intelligent, he has the success thing going for him, etc. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps the reason some people are successful in dating and others aren't maybe because those who have terrible dating luck produce some sort of "woman repellant" to prevent women from being attracted to them. And on the flip side I see guys who don't do anything, they don't even have to approach women, but women just come to them. Yeah i have a friend who cant get women like me but is much more agressive and gets turned down by hundreds and hundreds of women While hes not good lookign at all and one can say unattractive facially hes not in bad shape has a decent job and isnt a bad guy When married women in my social circle talk about him and his troubles they say how he just gives off a creepy vibe and that he doesnt have much masculine energy So when your problem is an intangible thing like that and something just inherent about you that you cant just flip and switch and change i think its tough
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yes, but the point was if someone like Te'o is having dating trouble, something is wrong. He's not ugly looking, considering he's at notre dame he's probably intelligent, he has the success thing going for him, etc. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps the reason some people are successful in dating and others aren't maybe because those who have terrible dating luck produce some sort of "woman repellant" to prevent women from being attracted to them. And on the flip side I see guys who don't do anything, they don't even have to approach women, but women just come to them. I don't think he has trouble dating at all. The dude grew up in Hawaii. I'm sure he's gotten countless tail. He's the predominant ethnicity over there. More my problem with the thread is the reaction of disgust and repulsion. Like I was watching TV with a female friend the other day and Bobby Flay came on. I had never seen him before and thought he was actually pretty handsome. My female friend was like 'NOT attractive'. I mean, Manti Teo and Bobby Flay are getting those reactions, I can only imagine the reactions I get. I never think 'gross' when I meet a female no matter how overweight or whatever.
fortyninethousand322 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 That's not true. They can't be total idiots like the players Alabama and Oklahoma recruit, but they don't have to be academically at the level of typical Notre Dame standards. Not even Ivy League schools are like that. You think ND could have played for the national title if all of the players on the football team were nerds in HS. They probably couldn't beat a D3 team. Before this year, how often has Notre Dame challenged for a national title? I must have missed all those BCS Championships Ty Willingham and Charlie Weisz won... Their adherence to academic standards holds them back competitively. 2
PJKino Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I don't think he has trouble dating at all. The dude grew up in Hawaii. I'm sure he's gotten countless tail. He's the predominant ethnicity over there. More my problem with the thread is the reaction of disgust and repulsion. Like I was watching TV with a female friend the other day and Bobby Flay came on. I had never seen him before and thought he was actually pretty handsome. My female friend was like 'NOT attractive'. I mean, Manti Teo and Bobby Flay are getting those reactions, I can only imagine the reactions I get. I never think 'gross' when I meet a female no matter how overweight or whatever. Womens shallowness and judgmentalness on looks is understated When youre around a group of women watching even a sporting event they comment on how certain guys are gross and root for the team with the cuter players
Lobouspo Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Brains? Please. I went to a school ranked similarly to Notre Dame and had the 'pleasure' of having many a football player in my classes. In groups they never did any of the work, and they barely passed the class (if they even showed up half the time). I wouldn't call any of the football players I went to class with smart and many are in the NFL today. Notre Dame isn't like other schools. Athletes actually have real majors, and have to have decent SAT scores to get in. Most of the illiterate clowns at Alabama wouldnt last a week at Notre Dame. Manti is a devout Mormon and very in tune with his Samoan heritage. Tough to find someone compatible at a Catholic midwest school. I've been to South Bend... not alot of Hawaii mormons hanging out. 4
pbjbear Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Womens shallowness and judgmentalness on looks is understated When youre around a group of women watching even a sporting event they comment on how certain guys are gross and root for the team with the cuter players Lol I am a woman who watches sporting events with other women and we dont do this...Occasionally when I watch soap opers with friends theyll make remarks but never in front of their boyfriends. Some girls have tact and respect Ive dated several men in the past that constantly made rude disrespectful comments about other girls in front of me and I have male friends that do this in front of their dates. Some guys dont Its not a gender thing- its a respect thing 1
Necris Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Yeah i have a friend who cant get women like me but is much more agressive and gets turned down by hundreds and hundreds of women While hes not good lookign at all and one can say unattractive facially hes not in bad shape has a decent job and isnt a bad guy When married women in my social circle talk about him and his troubles they say how he just gives off a creepy vibe and that he doesnt have much masculine energy So when your problem is an intangible thing like that and something just inherent about you that you cant just flip and switch and change i think its tough I think that's probably a big reason why some people do so terribly in dating, there's some intangible thing about them that makes them unattractive, something money, confidence, and exercise can't fix. Just look at some of the posters on LS, myself included, and how they say they try hard but their efforts are always fruitless.
pbjbear Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Women are only really physically attracted and turned on by the top few % of men what they can get and have to settle for is another story Not true. The last guy I really liked was unemployed half the time we dated, was kinda shy and is prob considered average looking. He had a good personality though and little something something about him...cant put my finger on it
chex Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Not true. The last guy I really liked was unemployed half the time we dated, was kinda shy and is prob considered average looking. He had a good personality though and little something something about him...cant put my finger on it Hmmm, maybe it's like the guys in this thread are saying, but as with Manti Teo having a slightly negative/unattractive vibe your ex had an intangible positive vibe? Interesting. I'd like to hear more about him, actually.
JuneJulySeptember Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Before this year, how often has Notre Dame challenged for a national title? I must have missed all those BCS Championships Ty Willingham and Charlie Weisz won... Their adherence to academic standards holds them back competitively. Absolutely it does. But that doesn't mean their athletes have to be at the same level academically as the student body. Not even Harvard's athletes have to be at the same level. Jeremy Lin couldn't have gotten into Harvard if he didn't play ball. No way. But I do agree with you, it hold them back. Anyway, this isn't a sports forum. It's a love forum. 1
kaylan Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Come on OP. This isnt hard to figure out. Its well known that the average Joe Blow or Plain Jane loves to take celebs down a peg. But in reality Im SURE that Teo could bed the woman who wrote that article and MANY others. Again, people love to known the rich, sexy, good looking, or famous down a peg. But at the end of the day, that kid will have it all...and some nobody writing an article wont matter. Hes an attractive guy and will have women from all walks of life and all attractiveness levels wanting a piece of him. Who cares whatt some plain jane hater thinks in her article that no one cares about. 1
sweetjasmine Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Again, people love to known the rich, sexy, good looking, or famous down a peg. But at the end of the day, that kid will have it all...and some nobody writing an article wont matter. Good for him. That doesn't mean every woman on earth has to find the guy attractive. 1
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