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So I messed up badly with this girl...

 

We dated for 2 months, never became anything official (although we often times talked about it) and then when she asked for her space to get herself situated/ make friends here, I listened... But then over a two week span I just really screwed things up...

 

Texting her, basically breaking down, how I just wanted to be her friend, how I missed her alot, etc... I just didnt listen to her when she said she just wasnt ready for a relationship and needed time for herself.. I honestly just want all of this to be forgotten and start fresh the next time i see her.

 

Background though: She is from Venezuela, I met her a week after she arrived here, we started dating soon after. It moved slowly, in what we did, but I thought everything was going good, however, we just spent too much time talking/hanging out too fast and she just wasnt ready for that... Neither was I

 

She would often times tell me that she felt alot for me and that it was the first time in a long time she felt that way...

 

Anyways, I just want everything to blow over. I don't care if she dates anyone in the time being and really, I dont care what she does. But do girls feelings for guys come back, or once they're gone are they gone for good?

 

Im going back to the gym, im doing things I should have been doing after I got back from Europe... She did say she also wanted time to go by so that we could have a good friendship, which probably means its over for good... But this is defiantly a girl that is worth trying for again.

 

Could something like this work, though? Allowing time to pass by, forget about the things we both said and just go for it again? She already liked me once before, we didn't have any big fights or anything (outside of a few instances..), so if I prove to her that I am more mature, could there be a chance that I could win her over again (or well, so that she at least actually gives me shot this time)?

 

I mean if she has moved on, are the feelings she once had for me just a distant memory and now all she will ever see is a "friend?"

 

-I have not seriously dated anyone in a long time... I am tired of pointless flings and was really excited to have something that was serious... But I just didnt know how to react once it ended adn let it get me down for a little over a month

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You lost her...not going to happen. You need to move on.

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But do girls feelings for guys come back,

 

No.

or once they're gone are they gone for good?

 

Yes.

 

Jeesh, why do you want to work so hard?

 

let it go..... Honestly, you should.

Really.

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Haha to be honest I have no clue.

 

This was the first girl I truly liked in some time and I just really wanted it to work out because i thought it was going to..

 

Idk, I guess my childhood was spent too much in fairy tale love stories (alot of my childhood friends were girls...).

 

Venezuelan girl comes in with her uncle, sits at goodlooking waiter's table, they talk a little, waiter leaves her a little message in spanish and gives her his name for facebook (didnt know if she had a number), they talk on facebook a bit, go out soon after. Waiter just happens to know Spanish because he use to live in Costa Rica for over a year, while she doesnt know any English. They go out for some time, speaking only in Spanish. While discovering the city she had just moved to together (as I didnt really know it either), etc.

 

Hahaha I just let myself get played into thinking of this as some fairy tale situation. I've realized it was over, but I just didnt want to believe it...

 

Well its a learning experience. Haha perhaps I am better set with just random flings and not allowing emotions to take hold. I defiantly need to take things slower though... All of what I did for two months in Europe defiantly did not help what happened here at all

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When a girl asks for space, it's because she has lost interest and she wants to see other people. It was not to get situated. You did not not ruin things a couple of weeks later; she was already out the door.

 

Move on and find someone better. This time don't smother them, but don't be a complete jerk either.

 

Good luck!

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I don't know about this in that why would you want to be with someone who rejected you for some nonsense before? She'll come up with another reason down the road. I'd move on, or see her while looking in other places as well. Don't hold your breath with her.

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