grace777 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 My ex of 3 1/2 years broke up with me a few months ago. It was Hell for me, but for the last month, I've been doing pretty well...working out, dating, hanging with friends, focusing on my career, etc. Within a week of our breakup, however, she was dating someone else. I suspect this began a few weeks before the end, but I am not sure. This new person was also in a relationship for 8 years and even owned a home together. Then ended it for my ex. The two of them have been dating for 3 months now. They are apparently already talking of marriage and a future together. The new woman preached to my ex before they were dating and were just "friends" that she didn't believe in monogamy. Now, suddenly she does? I guess my question is this - are they in a double rebound relationship? And if so, will it last? My ex is 13 years younger than me and I should be the one who is stronger, but I'm not. I guess I just want to know that their relationship, built off of cheating on their significant others, is doomed to fail. That's probably a messed up thought. I don't want my ex back now, but it seems so unfair that she hasn't had to process the loss of our relationship because she just jumped into a new relationship. I am a woman too, btw - I guess I should have pointed that out earlier. Anyways, i'd love to hear some insight.
TaraMaiden Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I guess my question is this - are they in a double rebound relationship? And if so, will it last? My ex is 13 years younger than me and I should be the one who is stronger, but I'm not. I guess I just want to know that their relationship, built off of cheating on their significant others, is doomed to fail. That's probably a messed up thought. I don't want my ex back now, but it seems so unfair that she hasn't had to process the loss of our relationship because she just jumped into a new relationship. At the risk of being blunt - it's not your business, and frankly, you have no right to ask - or even know. Besides, who can predict things like this? 2-and-a-half years ago, you would have completely denied that a break-up could ever have happened between you and your ex. Unthinkable. Yet here you are. Frankly, all you resent is that she has a new love - and you don't. Which I'm sorry for, but the situation can only be remedied by you - by dropping all this angst and unanswerable curiosity - and moving on.
Allumere Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Well, I guess thats one thing to hope for. I certainly have been hopeful of such things. Here is the deal. First off, TM is correct. Not your business (and of course most or not all of us are guilty for wanting to know ...but really it isn'). Secondly, I have heard a million times...they'll get theirs, karmas a bitch, it's a reound...well don't count on it. And you know what, not once has that been the case. Ex-husband ran off with a woman during a manic cycle (he had numerous affairs) and caused a lot of other financial damages in the process. Today, he lives on a beautiful horse farm, remains successful in business, has a child and married the person he had the affair with (and yeah, I'm bitter but only regarding the money....him leaving was a blessing). Last ex is engaged to the person after me (the rebound) and seems very happy as does everyone that knows them as a couple. And other ex's are also very happy with their "rebound" partners after me...Should I have a complex...LOL. By hoping it fails keeps that itty bitty bit of hope burning, whether its hoping they are miserable or that they come back. Just give it up. You are wasting energy on someone who is no longer there and it all needs to be spent on you right now 1
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