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Ex-boyfriend sends me possible meet up message?


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Okay so, I have only posted two other threads on here. This thread is a continuation from my last ones so here is a quick summary:

 

Ok so, if you have not read my previous post about my break up, here is a little summary. My ex and I broke up about two months ago. He asked for a break, we had one, then he just dumped me. Come to find out he cheated and left me for that same girl who is now his new gf.

 

I have gone to great lengths to delete him out of my life. Numbers, family member numbers, pictures on facebook, boxed up his things, the whole nine yards pretty much. So I am abroad visiting family and in the middle of the night at around 4am my time, I get a text from my ex saying "night night babe ". He sends this at 11pm his time. This is obviously meant for his new gf. But this is no accident. He has an iphone. He would have either scrolled down to my text box if he did not delete it, or type my name in. Plus his new gf name and mine are not similar what so ever. I not only get it once, but he sends it twice. I got the second one some time after I landed back in the states. I ignored box texts and decided not to say anything.

 

So just a few days ago I got another text message from him basically saying:

"Hey I just wanted to see if maybe you'd like to meet up at some point to catch up and kind of clear the air. I understand if you don't wish to do this and wont take any offense if I do not hear back. Hope you are well. Love, Tom"

 

So I would love to hear some thoughts. I have not responded and he sent this four days ago. I have no wishes to respond or see him. I just kinda want to get into his head a little.

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Ignore it. You aren't going to get into his head, he'll get into yours. It's nothing.

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Breadcrumbs.

 

 

 

Read the No Contact Guide.

It''s all in there......

 

But do not, on any account, for any reason, respond, reply or COMply.

 

That's one huge great big no-no.

 

No.

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Don't do it.

 

He's trying to relieve his own guilt. He's not looking out for you or your best interest. In all honesty, he's probably realizing that the girl he cheated on you with, and left for... isn't all that great. He's trying to sniff around to see how much leeway he has to weasel back into your life.

 

Don't give him the privilege of being relieved of any negative feelings he has. He deserves everything and then some.

 

If you do contact him back, he will get his closure and it could very well strengthen the relationship with this new girl. If he gets you back as a "friend" he will think he's not a horrible person and that he's really not a piece of s.hit. He is.

 

Silence will kill him.

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Id ignore it. Someone who left you for another girl is not worth of your time, not even to "clear the air". Delete his texts and pretend it didnt happen, eventually he'll stop.

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