Socktwixxle Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I recently asked my close work friend to my formal (prom almost) as I go to an all girls school and sort of liked him. I made it quite clear I wanted to go with him asa friend but e replied almost instantly telling me he had no formal clothes (idk the formal is on Friday and that's about 3 days notice). We never message or chat much but I feel he felt really bad after saying no and he started engaging in active conversation with me even suggesting we go on a date, but is this just him overcompensating for not coming? Hes apologized countless times and asked me if i found anyone else to go with because he feels bad. He's such a nice guy and I really value our friendship, I don't want things to be awkward between us at all and I really don't want to get wrong signals from him because I'm quite emotionally invested in him. He is also the kind of guy who is nice to everyone and flirts with everyone but I guess I saw what I wanted to see and that was the attention he gave me, ie coming out of te back at work just to talk to me, touching me, etc. How can I make everything less awkward and make him not feel almost obliged to be nice to me or even pity me?
Ladybugz Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 be yourself, tell him not to touch you. being nice have noting to do with touching. and like you said , he is just the same with everyone. and he is not interested in your stuff . move on. at the end you are there to work, not to make freinds
Frank13 Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Is it possible he really doesn't have any formal clothes and 3 days isn't enough time to go shopping and get them? What is he supposed to do, go in jeans and a t-shirt and knowingly embarrass you? If he were using this as an excuse to reject you, why would he ask you out on a date? I think if he was really rejecting you he wouldn't have asked you on a date or asked if you found someone else to go with (maybe he is asking because he is trying to see if you have other guys you are interested in or if he has a chance with you). Don't let a possible real excuse keep you from seeing if there is something there between you two. If you start to back away now he will think you aren't inerested and he will start backing away to protect himself. I say give him and you a chance. Accept his excuse as valid and go on a date with him.
fancy feast Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 Don't over think it. He asked you out. If you want to go, then do it.
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