sargewood Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I'm a first timer here so I'll explain everything I can.... So I was with a girl for a little over 2 years, everything was good and all that jazz and like all couples we had our ups and downs. She also has a kid which I accepted as my own and love very dearly. Basically the last two months of our relationship went really sour. We fought a lot almost every week and that basically contributed to the break up. Our fights were little stupid things but our issues we never resolved. All we ever did was make up and we forgot about everything that happened. So basically all the problems just piled up and eventually the fights went even more bigger which in the end, destroyed our relationship. It's been a week and a few days after the break up (she initiated it) and during that time I used it to clear my head and control my emotions which so far I think I'm doing a decent job. I know our fight were caused by both sides not just one side and we were both too stubborn and selfish to even see until the break up happened and we both learnt the hard way. My problem is well I want to work it all out with her because after thinking about it, it was the most simplest and silliest thing that could easily be sorted out. Also her cousin told me that she's doubting her decision about the break up and not even a week into the break up she's texted me twice. I didn't reply to the first one but replied to the second one due to her wanting the babyseat. A few days ago I went over to deliver the baby seat and we ended up having a talk about "us". It was basically an apologetic talk, with me mostly saying sorry for all the bad things that happened while she wasn't really apologetic but she was listening and quite forgiving and she's mentioned she's never seen her ex's straight after a break up. She was saying that when she saw me she didn't know if she was happy, angry or sad and is just confused about it. She mentioned that she doesn't think I'm ready for a relationship with a child but at the same time she mentioned that "if with someone new she's prepared to accept it". I told her how I felt and all that lovey dovey stuff. She's also glad that she can have a breather from all the stress in her life. I asked her if this is goodbye forever and she said since were not together then yes it is goodbye but she believes we'll also get together later on (and throughout the whole talk it's obvious the feelings are still there) but we should just let go and "go with it". She mentioned she also wanted to forget about all our bad times and I asked her if she wanted to forget about us and she told me to not please ask that question. Before leaving, she gave me back her ring that she gave to me as a present which has our names etched onto it. I found it a little weird but she simply said to keep it for safe keeping and if I ended up meeting someone new I can return it. After that I left...quite confused. A few days later she rings me just to see how I was going, I didn't really see who the caller ID was and just picked up the phone and didn't realise it was her. I kept it short told her I was ok and left it at that. Of course I want to work this out with her but after that little "talk" I'm left quite confused (which girls are good at) so I'm quite unsure on how to proceed with all this.
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