Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 So heres the deal. On New Years i spent the night with my bestfriend thats a girl. One thing led to another and she gave me the impression that she wanted to be kissed. The next day she tells me were better off as friends and decides to chase another guy thats hurt her in the past and they never even dated. The next week i find out that stuff happened and they decided not to talk ever again. This week i was suppose to hang out with my ex girlfriend but i decided i didnt want to because she has a boyfriend and she never confirmed our date. I texted my girl bestfriend and we hung out after about 5 hours we were at her house and we played the old "tickle fight" and we ended up laying down legs locked onto each other. Then we did the old hand high five to a holding hand thing and we were holding hands. I had to leave 10 minutes later and when we texted until we slept i thought she was liking me. The next day i dont know how but i started texting her saying "Yeah i cant wait to find a girl thats good for me" (because ive been through some bad relationships and she knows that) but her response confused me because she said good luck with that. Does that mean she was mad that i accidently freind zoned her or did she mean that she is the one im looking for. Do i ask her if she feels the same way i do. I like her a lot. should i wait it out and ask her later?
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yeah, you messed up. Try this: "I'm sorry about what I said. I was trying to subtly hint that I like you, and I guess nervousness got the best of me. What do you think?" 1
ChessPieceFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 NO. Don't tell her you like her, showing your cards is the fastest way to ruin it. Just wait a couple days and ask her to do something again.
Divasu Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 How dare you have a tickle fight and then tell her that the next morning. Talk about being used... Shame on you. If she gives you the cold shoulder, than you know you've bleeped it up. So, I guess just feel it out over the next few days and see how she responds to you. Or, you can go the direct route, and mention it.
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 But i dont get it i said that to hint at her that shes the one i want
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 But i dont get it i said that to hint at her that shes the one i want Uh....ok, in your head it made sense, although I have no idea why. In HER head it went like this, "He was just screwing around and being playful last night, and now he's talking to me like a 'pal' about how he hopes he finds someone. I'm RIGHT HERE. Oh, nevermind. F off, you jerk." 2
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 So how do i save myself? i like her a lot what is she thinking now? is there still a chance?
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I already told you what you should do in my very first reply. You know how I expressed interest in the guy I'm seeing? "Dude, you are really awesome. I have a mad crush on you. Oh MAN, did you see what Kaepernick just did??" I swear those were the exact words I used.
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 This was about two days ago and since then shes still text me back. In fact she does this thing where Im the only one who she text back almost immediately. But shes acting like a friend and strictly a friend not like the first night where we were texting each other like we were "Talking"
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 YES. Because you basically told her... Oh, never mind. I feel like a broken record.
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 okay i get it, i friend zoned her on accident. now can i ask you if youve ever been friend zoned but ended up dating the same guy before?
Divasu Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 But i dont get it i said that to hint at her that shes the one i want She could very well not like you **that** way, so I guess that's why you took the 'safe' route by seeing if what you said would get a reaction out of her. 'Hints' aren't always going to be perceived correctly to the interpreter, or received positively for that matter.
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 so in your opinion should i wait it out and see if she in fact does like me that way. Or take the direct route. based on what youve read. and what would you do if you were in my shoes
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 okay i get it, i friend zoned her on accident. now can i ask you if youve ever been friend zoned but ended up dating the same guy before? I don't get friendzoned to my knowledge, but I doubt I would date a guy if I did. If you want to fix this and find out how she feels, do it now.
Author Leonshark Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Lol but say if it was on accident and you meant to hint her that you like her not friendzone her
todreaminblue Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 But i dont get it i said that to hint at her that shes the one i want if a guy said what you said to me i would say exactly the same thing funnily enough, even if i did like him,and i mean really like him, I would say I hope You find what you are looking for,i woudlnt say oh no you have to like me dont find someone else......what did you honestly expect her to say?......i would tell her how you really feel......dont play games.....you wont find out what she feels unless you ask her.....deb
Author Leonshark Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Turns out she didnt like me at all so yeah....
ChessPieceFace Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Or being honest about your feelings so soon made her decide you were a "chump"...
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