awesomesauce Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Im getting into the dating scene, hitting up a few clubs and bars every now and then, but im just wondering when you girls are dancing out and having a good time, do you want to feel the guys junk all up on ya. I mean im not a girl, i dont know whats going through your head during that time, so im kinda just curious what everyone's perspective is. Is it good or is it bad, and what classifies it as such?
todreaminblue Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Im getting into the dating scene, hitting up a few clubs and bars every now and then, but im just wondering when you girls are dancing out and having a good time, do you want to feel the guys junk all up on ya. I mean im not a girl, i dont know whats going through your head during that time, so im kinda just curious what everyone's perspective is. Is it good or is it bad, and what classifies it as such? When i go dancing its normally to dance,I dont normally dance with guys unless they come up and dance with me, half the time it takes me a while to realize there is a guy there until he actually touches me, I dont like it when they come up behind and do full body contact, drunk as skunks, turns me off going dancing.....haven't been in quite a while.....for that reason.....and the fact i am staying away from guys who drink I dont drink anymore so dont really want to be part of that scene...i really miss dancing though, miss my stress relief.......deb
SmileFace Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Once a guy gets hard when dancing ... I am on to the next. Not because I don't expect it to happen - I just don't want to deal with it. Unless we are couple - then it is all ok.
pbjbear Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Starting 2 years ago, I made it a rule to never date anyone I met at a bar/club. I live in NYC just for reference Those guys just want sex and it doesnt matter how they present themselves or how quickly they push for it, in the end its all they want...my friends I have now who are a few years younger than me finally just figured this out and prob will be going on a Penis Embargo at clubs/bars as well
clia Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 but im just wondering when you girls are dancing out and having a good time, do you want to feel the guys junk all up on ya. Uh, no. It's disgusting to have some creepy, sweaty stranger lurk up behind you on the dance floor and start pressing his junk against you. 1
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 As a martial artist, I can honestly say that if a man I didn't know started rubbing his junk on me, he'd very quickly find out what a proper choke hold is and how long it takes to render someone unconscious.
normal person Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 (edited) Starting 2 years ago, I made it a rule to never date anyone I met at a bar/club. I live in NYC just for reference Those guys just want sex and it doesnt matter how they present themselves or how quickly they push for it, in the end its all they want...my friends I have now who are a few years younger than me finally just figured this out and prob will be going on a Penis Embargo at clubs/bars as well Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but it honestly sounds like you think that any guy who patronizes a bar "just wants sex," as if a bar was a brothel and there was no other conceivable reason to be there. Yes, there are people like that, but c'mon. Edited January 29, 2013 by normal person
pbjbear Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but it honestly sounds like you think that any guy who patronizes a bar "just wants sex," as if a bar was a brothel and there was no other conceivable reason to be there. Yes, there are people like that, but c'mon. I go to dance with friends. Not saying guys go to bars/clubs just to get sex. Hopefully they go for a good time. But when they get a phone number or a date from someone they met there...they usually just want sex.
Lani Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 In short, no, we don't like to feel a guys junk all up on us when we're dancing. Generally we're dancing just to dance and have fun. If you want to dance with a girl, do it normally, not with your junk. 1
normal person Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 (edited) I go to dance with friends. Not saying guys go to bars/clubs just to get sex. Hopefully they go for a good time. But when they get a phone number or a date from someone they met there...they usually just want sex. You know what? I was completely wrong in my earlier reply, my apologies. A lot, not all, of people who go to bars do in fact want sex... the caveat being that not all of them want it in the same time frame. I'm a guy and I go to bars have a good time, have some drinks, unwind, talk to my friends, enjoy the atmosphere, watch a sports game, dance, meet new people, etc. Most of all, I go to meet girls. It's a big priority but certainly not my only one. However, a bar is where most people, both male and female, go in their 20s go to socialize and meet new people in hopes that they might find someone they like, develop a relationship, and have sex. Otherwise, people wouldn't go to bars. They'd stay home, play their own music, and drink for a fraction of the price. Of course people at bars want sex -- that's the general premise of a bar or a club. You pay a premium to be in the presence of other people who also want to meet other people, most of whom who want sex at some point in the future. Usually you have to date and develop a relationship first, but some people do jump the gun and some people are ok with that. I've met girls at bars, and guess what? Some of them just want sex. Most of them want to talk and get to know you, then after a while if they like you enough, have sex. You wouldn't develop a relationship with a guy and then not have sex with him because you met at a bar. Sex is the undertone of the whole experience for most people. Anyways, sorry for derailing the thread. A lot of times when I'm out at a bar I usually have to push some very forward guys away from my female friends when they start dancing a little to close for comfort. If I was a girl, I can't imagine that'd be enjoyable, and dancing like that just seems laughable for anyone over the age of 23. Edited January 29, 2013 by normal person
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