Socktwixxle Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I recently asked my close work friend to my formal (prom almost) as I go to an all girls school and sort of liked him. I made it quite clear I wanted to go with him asa friend but e replied almost instantly telling me he had no formal clothes as the formal is on Friday and that's about 3 days notice. We never message or chat much but I feel he felt really bad after saying no and he started engaging in active conversation with me even suggesting we go on a date, but is this just him overcompensating for not coming? Hes apologized countless times and asked me if i found anyone else to go with because he feels bad. He's such a nice guy and I really value our friendship, I don't want things to be awkward between us at all and I really don't want to get wrong signals from him because I'm quite emotionally invested in him. He is also the kind of guy who is nice to everyone but I guess I saw what I wanted to see and that was the attention he gave me, ie coming out of te back at work just to talk to me, touching me, etc. How can I make everything less awkward and make him not feel almost obliged to be nice to me or even pity me?
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Stop worrying about it. He probably just really doesn't have anything to wear. Give the dude a break and go out with him and have fun. 1
todreaminblue Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I recently asked my close work friend to my formal (prom almost) as I go to an all girls school and sort of liked him. I made it quite clear I wanted to go with him asa friend but e replied almost instantly telling me he had no formal clothes as the formal is on Friday and that's about 3 days notice. We never message or chat much but I feel he felt really bad after saying no and he started engaging in active conversation with me even suggesting we go on a date, but is this just him overcompensating for not coming? Hes apologized countless times and asked me if i found anyone else to go with because he feels bad. He's such a nice guy and I really value our friendship, I don't want things to be awkward between us at all and I really don't want to get wrong signals from him because I'm quite emotionally invested in him. He is also the kind of guy who is nice to everyone but I guess I saw what I wanted to see and that was the attention he gave me, ie coming out of te back at work just to talk to me, touching me, etc. How can I make everything less awkward and make him not feel almost obliged to be nice to me or even pity me? Talk to him, you dont know if that is what he feels be open with him, be honest with what you do feel, and then ask about the date,say you would love to go on a date with him but only if he doesnt feel obligated.......best wishes...i hope it works out for you....deb
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