superb Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I prefer to date/talk to only one man at a time. How am I supposed to find peace with a man I'm interested in talking to/dating/seeing more than just me? Is this normal?
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I remember my grandma telling me one time that when she was young, people often went out on dates with more than one person. They didn't just jump into a relationship right away. I would say that if you like the guy, you'll have to be ok with it, and if you aren't ok with it, move on to someone else who is more compatible with you when it comes to exclusivity.
Author superb Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 I remember my grandma telling me one time that when she was young, people often went out on dates with more than one person. They didn't just jump into a relationship right away. I would say that if you like the guy, you'll have to be ok with it, and if you aren't ok with it, move on to someone else who is more compatible with you when it comes to exclusivity. I get that but I'm not comfy being in a physical relationship with someone who is actively seeing/pursuing other women. That's where the conflict comes in. Every man I've met has been less serious than me in this way. Obviously why I am single today. I see it as settling if I put up with things I don't like. Not only is it disrespectful but it's dangerous.
Treasa Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I would say not to get physical with them, then. I know it sounds like I'm oversimplifying it, but it's really that easy. 1
clia Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yeah, you don't get physical until you have established exclusivity, outside of kissing. Until you are exclusive and have had the discussion, it's really fair game to go out with other people. I always multi-date. I mean, my life doesn't stop because I meet a new person who I might like. Sometimes in the past I've gone out on a date or two with one person, and then I meet someone new, so I start going out with him also. I've never been able to juggle more than a few at once, though, so guys will inevitably get dropped out of the rotation if someone better comes along. Then you just wait for the cream to rise to the crop and become exclusive. I don't agree with sleeping with more than one guy at once, though. 2
TouchedByViolet Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 If you are dating someone and after about 3-5 dates if they are still actively searching for new dating prospects they don't see you as a potential long term mate. 1
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