Nuna Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 (edited) So it's the 3rd week of our 2 years of being together. He left me cause he doesn't love me anymore and didn't think it could work as we had too many fights and we were never a team -that's what he said, but as far as I remember, we had a wonderful year but a weird second one with a lot of ups and downs. I did speak to him for the first two weeks, got all the answers I wanted-he was cold and distant, giving no hope of getting back together at all- and then after one week of not talking to each other, he send me a love song with lyrics saying "this is just us". I wrote to him a long message saying that I need my heart to heal, blamed myself for everything and told him I'm saying goodbye and although I feel really sad I lost him, I don't need any love songs about break ups. He didn't reply on anything I said, not that I was expecting him to. My message was soothing and I didn't blame him for anything. Why did he send this to me? Do you think it was because he is sad of our break up and feels guilty, so he wants to make me feel a little bit better? I'm so frustrated and confused... Edited January 28, 2013 by Nuna
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 What song was it? It could be breadcrumbs. Or maybe he's just confused.
geegirl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Dumpers are all not heartless and cold. I am sure he still has an attachment to you but not as intense as you do. He could have sent you the song while nursing feelings of guilt, loss and even sadness. You said it was a break-up song. That's all it is. Don't analyze it. The big picture remains. He has decided to end it and that is all you need to remember, grieve and move on.
Author Nuna Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 (edited) The song's title is That's What Love Will Do" and he wrote down the lyrics that go like this: "It will break your heart into a million pieces/ hurt you so bad that you are sad and blue/ break up he or she doesn't know the difference/ that's what love that's love will do" Then I said " Are you feeling bad cause I'm sad you're moving out?" and why you send this and he said "It's just us" I send him the first song we had together, saying my goodbye too.... Edited January 28, 2013 by Nuna
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I think it's just his way of looking for closure. 1 week of no contact can make you start having "look backs", but this doesn't mean his feelings have changed. Maybe he feels guilty, but I think he's just clinging on to you until he finds something better. I don't think he means to hurt you, but he feels lonely and sad too, because he just doesn't love you anymore. Best way to deal with it, is say your last goodbyes, and never look back. Close that chapter of your book, and start writing a new one, one letter at a time. 1
Author Nuna Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 I think it's just his way of looking for closure. 1 week of no contact can make you start having "look backs", but this doesn't mean his feelings have changed. Maybe he feels guilty, but I think he's just clinging on to you until he finds something better. I don't think he means to hurt you, but he feels lonely and sad too, because he just doesn't love you anymore. Best way to deal with it, is say your last goodbyes, and never look back. Close that chapter of your book, and start writing a new one, one letter at a time. Oh this is so hard I can't believe he was loving just 3 weeks ago and now he says he doesn't love me anymore...it hurts like hell
LduKaZ Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Oh this is so hard I can't believe he was loving just 3 weeks ago and now he says he doesn't love me anymore...it hurts like hell I am sorry. And I am sorry for being harsh. I don't think you should hold any regrets or hate. At least he was honest to you, and told you exactly how he felt. He also has a right to be sad, I mean I'm sure he wishes he still felt the same way. Be respectful to his wishes, if he doesn't want you, then vow out of his life gracefully. You will find someone who loves you no matter what, I know this without even knowing you in person. Believe me, you can't start writing another chapter, unless you put a final period on the last one.
Author Nuna Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 I am sorry. And I am sorry for being harsh. I don't think you should hold any regrets or hate. At least he was honest to you, and told you exactly how he felt. He also has a right to be sad, I mean I'm sure he wishes he still felt the same way. Be respectful to his wishes, if he doesn't want you, then vow out of his life gracefully. You will find someone who loves you no matter what, I know this without even knowing you in person. Believe me, you can't start writing another chapter, unless you put a final period on the last one. That's what I did, I respected his wishes and I'm out of his life...I don't hate him for sure and he knows it. I do have regrets though and I know I need to stop blaming myself. Hate or anger inside is wrong and I promised my self not to feel this way. You're not being harsh at all, don't worry x
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