april38 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Ok, I have a some what embarrassing question to ask, and even though I don't think I'll do this, I'd still like to know what you all think, so... I've been on 4 dates with a guy I really like, and we have another date planned for this weekend. On the last couple of dates we made out, but nothing else has happened yet - we are both trying to take it slowly. I just got back from a week vacation in the Caribbean and have some pics of me in a bikini on the beach. So I'm wondering is it totally inappropriate to text him a bikini pic (with a little note - pics from vacation, something to keep your mind unfocused at work :-) ) I look great in the pic, and I want him to know that I'm interested in him, and want to be flirty, but I don't want to mess things up either by being too forward, or cocky. What are your thought?
veggirl Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Too soon, looks desperate, like you are trying to use sexy pics to snag him. 3
sid3 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Too soon, looks desperate, like you are trying to use sexy pics to snag him. I agree. It sends the wrong message. 2
CarrieT Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Google and read the recent news reports about "revenge porn.". That should cure ANY ONE of sending sexy pictures until you are in a secure and committed relationship! 1
Author april38 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 Thanks everyone for your replies. I've decided to not send the pic. On our 3rd date he told me he's very attracted to me, and feels he needs to be careful, and wants to take things slowly. (This was before our first kiss, which happened 10 minutes later) But I think I should honor his choice and let it flow slowly for a while until I feel 100% comfortable sending a pic.
sid3 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You've decided to play it "safe" how uneventful. No, she used her better judgements. Classy beats trashy. 3
Casablanca Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You've decided to play it "safe" how uneventful. Nothing wrong with that, I dont think it would have been an issue, but nothing wrong with playing it safe
sid3 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 haha hardly trashy for her to take a vacation that involves beach bikini pictures and share those with a guy she's been dating for weeks. That sounds fun to me. After only 4 dates, I disagree. We have different ideas of fun.
sid3 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yes your idea of fun involves not seeing girls in bikinis I get it. Clearly we define fun differently. I must need to get out more. Maybe a stroll through the lingerie department would do me some good.
Author april38 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 @OP did strangers see you in your bikini on the beach!?!?!? were you in public with your bikini on!?!?!? if so, can't see anything wrong with showing the guy you are meant to be dating... being flirty is all part of the fun... isn't it!?!? I agree with you, and I intend to show him the pictures when we are sitting around together and talking about my trip. I just decided not to text it to him because it could be viewed in too many unfavorable ways.
Author april38 Posted January 28, 2013 Author Posted January 28, 2013 You've decided to play it "safe" how uneventful. Yes, I am playing it safe. I really like this guy, and want to be cautious in revealing too much too soon while we are in the initial getting to know each other stage. I'm under the impression that he feels the same way. And, there are plenty of "events" coming to this guy in the future if he keeps up the way he has been with me. :-)
Casablanca Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Yes, I am playing it safe. I really like this guy, and want to be cautious in revealing too much too soon while we are in the initial getting to know each other stage. I'm under the impression that he feels the same way. And, there are plenty of "events" coming to this guy in the future if he keeps up the way he has been with me. :-) And there is nothing wrong with that at all! 1
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