CailinPig Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Here are the pros to my life: 1. I have a great family 2. I have a good circle of friends 3. I have a job I like Here are the cons: 1. My employer overpaid me and I now have a debt of almost 25,000 - I've always been someone who was careful with money (and before you start asking how could I not have known - I accept what's on my paycheque as my wage, my hourly rate is actually a combo of differenet things, my rate of pay is not written on my contract etc etc) 2. My car broke down last November in a foreign city and I had to pay a thousand euro for it to be fixed, only to have it break down again three weeks ago. My car had to be hauled back to the same garage in a foreign city. I last saw it three weeks ago and the guy is struggling to fix it. 3. I have no boyfriend - I last had a proper boyfriend waaay back in 2007 and after our break up, I came onto Loveshack. People kept telling me I'd find someone else. I haven't. 4. I have social anxiety, which maybe some of you don't know what it is. It's mainly in the background of my life, thank God, but it plays a part in my confidence with men. 5. I live at home and I'm 28. Rent is too high here for my rate of pay, minus the money i have to pay back to my employer. 6. I guess I must eat to make fill the void. I'm not huge, but I am about a stone overweight at most. I hate exercise and even though I'm good at eating healthy and losing weight, it never lasts for longer than two or three months. 7. I feel like a loser. Yes I have a job in a bad recession, and yes I have great family and friends, but with two weddings coming up this year, I look back and don't know what went wrong with my love life. I feel upset. 8. I miss male company. I'm surrounded by girls and women at home, in my group of friends, and yes, even at work there are no males!! I miss them as friends and boyfriends. 9. I'm still in on off contact with my ex and we chat now and again. I occassionally miss him and think of the life i could have had. This leads me to be bored with life.
venusianx13 Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 We all feel discontent at times. I guarantee you that even the wealthiest of people do, too. Have you ever considered volunteering for a cause that you believe in? One that you would freely give time of yourself without it feeling like a chore? I've done some volunteer work with wild animals, and it was amazing. It wore me right out, but was I ever bored? No. I'd like to try to do some mentoring with children, too. And perhaps in the future, some more with animals. As for finding a boyfriend...just date, casually, with no expectations. Have fun with it.
Author CailinPig Posted January 31, 2013 Author Posted January 31, 2013 In Ireland, there's no such thing as 'dating' really. Either someone likes you and you like them back, or there's nothing going on in your love life!! I feel a lot better than when I wrote that post. I think I'm going to move out at the end of August, when I hopefully know if I've a job or not for the following year - that way I can get a one year lease, and it'd be a fitting way to end my 20's It was funny, today in work we were talking about a girl who would love a boyfriend but is single for the past two years and another younger girl said 'why doesn't she get one then?' and I thought it was an incredibly funny thing to say, seeing as it's so damn difficult to 'get one'!!
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