How to use a condom...really?!

[Babolat]

My GF of 10+ months and I use to use the pull out method. Because of a recent scare we are using condoms now.

 

We started with regular condoms. I found myself bruising half way down the side of my penis where the end stopped so we switched to magnums.

 

The first time using one it broke!

 

We added K Y to the mix and that seems to help.

 

We had not had sex in 2 weeks so during our last event when I came a lot came out. The sex was long, 20+ minutes, deep and hard..I mean we went at it! It felt like I was cumming inside her when I came, she said the same. When I pulled out the condom was still on, not broken, though there was very little cum in it. Seems the cum came out at the open end, near the base of me. She had cum coming out of her too.

 

We went to the drug store, got a plan b pill and she took it within 4 hours of the event. Keeping our fingers crossed as she is ovulating.

 

So what the heck are we doing wrong? She suggested not pulling the condom all the way down, rather leaving it half way down. i am worried about that as it may come off. And darn it, there really are not instructions on how to put the darn things on (neither of us are really experienced with them).

 

 

Thanks

[Els]

Sounds like you got the wrong size. Are you sure the bruising previously was due to the condom being too small? Do you fit snugly into the large size?

 

One thing you need to do is to utilize other methods of contraception while you get this one right. There is no harm in using both pull-out and condom - you don't have to choose. If you're certain you both know when she is ovulating you can add calendar to the mix as well.

 

You can try going to a family planning clinic and getting them to help you with your technique.

[KraftDinner]

Sounds like you have a pretty big dong. Congrats, I suppose...

 

Anyway, roll it up as high as it will go. If the magnums aren't big/long enough, you can look around on the net and find pretty much every size.

 

Good luck!

[KungFuJoe]

My GF of 10+ months and I use to use the pull out method. Because of a recent scare we are using condoms now.

 

We started with regular condoms. I found myself bruising half way down the side of my penis where the end stopped so we switched to magnums.

 

The first time using one it broke!

 

We added K Y to the mix and that seems to help.

 

We had not had sex in 2 weeks so during our last event when I came a lot came out. The sex was long, 20+ minutes, deep and hard..I mean we went at it! It felt like I was cumming inside her when I came, she said the same. When I pulled out the condom was still on, not broken, though there was very little cum in it. Seems the cum came out at the open end, near the base of me. She had cum coming out of her too.

 

We went to the drug store, got a plan b pill and she took it within 4 hours of the event. Keeping our fingers crossed as she is ovulating.

 

So what the heck are we doing wrong? She suggested not pulling the condom all the way down, rather leaving it half way down. i am worried about that as it may come off. And darn it, there really are not instructions on how to put the darn things on (neither of us are really experienced with them).

 

 

Thanks

 

Are you ROLLING the condom on your penis?

 

Also make sure you have a GOOD erection before you attempt to put one on.

 

And roll it ALL the way down to the base.

[ImperfectionisBeauty]

Ok I'm sorry but how do you not know how to put on a condom? make sure it's on the right side and roll it down.

[sabre80]

Dont forget to pinch and hold the tip. Keep it from getting air in it but make sure you leave a nipple like end on it. Give a bit of space to hold your load otherwise its going to force its way out the sides.

[Feelin Frisky]

Make sure the kind you buy says "reservoir tip". If you're like that guy in porn with all the metal on his grill who cums by the tumbler glass full, there may be no solution but if you have a big but human-sized load, pinch the reservoir forward to give it extra room before you roll it on to catch it all and keep it all in the reservoir tip. Roll the condom all the way on, there nothing to be gained by going half way and it can come off a lot easier that way when you don't want that. Also, consider female condoms at least to see if they provide any benefit over the male ones. Don't forget there are diaphragms, spermicides, and IUDs in addition to a variety of birth control pills or implants.

[Babolat]

She had planned on an IUD (??) though friends have told her it can hurt and move so now she does not want one.

 

We do roll it down to the base and yes the magnum ones fit (not bragging here), just saying the others did not roll all the way down and I started to notice some bruising).

 

Nothing exceptiuonal about the volumn of "my load" that I am aware of; except this time it had been 2 weeks so I am sure there was more than usual.

 

And yes, I am new to condoms on a regualr basis; used them in the past (much much younger though). ZMy partners since have been on the pill. How not to use it? Well, there are two ways to roll it on as best I can tell.

 

I think pinching may be the solution here. With the event I described I pulled out a few times to move around and such and I noticed the condom was flush againt the tip...so it does sound like there was no reservior and it was forced out the sides.

 

And it's funny you mention pull out, as while we were doing ti I was thinking to myslef this is going to be a big load, maybe I should pulled out too. She is big on me staying in her so I did not.

 

Regarding ovulating, she downloaded an app for her phone that will help her manage that, though as she put it there is no way we are not having sex when she is ovulating as thats some of the best sex for her.

[fortyninethousand322]

Don't feel too bad. I didn't know how to put a condom on until I was 22 when I found a useful video on youtube (sex ed in my county was only allowed to mention condoms, not show us one). I still haven't had an occasion to use one though so maybe I shouldn't have wasted my time learning about it.

[FitChick]

She had planned on an IUD (??) though friends have told her it can hurt and move so now she does not want one.

Childbirth is more painful! Seriously, she should at least try the IUD. Many women like them. If they were painful no one would use them.

 

OR Tell her to get fitted for a diaphragm, take the Pill, or get those implants that go in your upper arm. Women have so many options these days.

 

At least you both have brains enough to use the morning after pill, something most seem clueless about.

 

If she never wants kids, she can get her tubes tied.

[Bristolius]

There are Magnum large and Magnum extra large.

[Babolat]

Childbirth is more painful! Seriously, she should at least try the IUD. Many women like them. If they were painful no one would use them.

 

OR Tell her to get fitted for a diaphragm, take the Pill, or get those implants that go in your upper arm. Women have so many options these days.

 

At least you both have brains enough to use the morning after pill, something most seem clueless about.

 

If she never wants kids, she can get her tubes tied.

 

Thanks, good tips.

 

She cannot take the pill for health reasons.

 

She has a teen daughter and after our close call she said she has been thinking about the idea of another child. I asked about me getting "fixed". She asked me if I ever wanted to have a child. I am not sure yet so she said then don't get yourself fixed. She also said what if we get married and want to have a child together..we could not.

Edited January 28, 2013 by Babolat

[Els]

She had planned on an IUD (??) though friends have told her it can hurt and move so now she does not want one.

 

IUD is not a great idea for a R of a few months (if I recall correctly?). Those things are much more difficult to go on and off of, compared to pills, and cost a lot to put in and remove. If she is considering some contraception on her side why not pills?

 

And it's funny you mention pull out, as while we were doing ti I was thinking to myslef this is going to be a big load, maybe I should pulled out too. She is big on me staying in her so I did not.

 

Regarding ovulating, she downloaded an app for her phone that will help her manage that, though as she put it there is no way we are not having sex when she is ovulating as thats some of the best sex for her.

 

Hrmm. Well, you still HAVE to do SOMEthing til you figure out what the problem is, so it's up to you two to choose. Don't just go in hoping the next time will work; that is, unless you really want kids.

[TaraMaiden]

Thanks, good tips.

 

She cannot take the pill for health reasons.

 

She has a teen daughter and after our close call she said she has been thinking about the idea of another child. I asked about me getting "fixed". She asked me if I ever wanted to have a child. I am not sure yet so she said then don't get yourself fixed. She also said what if we get married and want to have a child together..we could not.

 

Investigate storing your sperm as frozen.

It can be done.

That way, you can keep your ejaculate under ice until such a time as you may want kids with her.... yet still 'fire blanks' after a vasectomy, and not have to worry about making her accidentally pregnant.

[Andy_K]

A regular condom is about 7" long. If you've only managed to roll it halfway down, you're either not rolling it properly or you need to get in touch with the people at the Guinness book of records.

[Bristolius]

A regular condom is about 7" long. If you've only managed to roll it halfway down, you're either not rolling it properly or you need to get in touch with the people at the Guinness book of records.

 

Sounds like a girth issue, not length.

[Babolat]

IUD is not a great idea for a R of a few months (if I recall correctly?). Those things are much more difficult to go on and off of, compared to pills, and cost a lot to put in and remove. If she is considering some contraception on her side why not pills?

 

 

 

Hrmm. Well, you still HAVE to do SOMEthing til you figure out what the problem is, so it's up to you two to choose. Don't just go in hoping the next time will work; that is, unless you really want kids.

 

10+ months together

 

She is in her early 40s and is concerned about health risks with the pill.

[Els]

10+ months together

 

She is in her early 40s and is concerned about health risks with the pill.

 

Ah, okay, I totally get that. Can you two not pop down to a planned parenthood clinic together and get counseling on your condom usage?

[Babolat]

Sounds like a girth issue, not length.

 

Regular condom does not go all the way down, Magnum does. Wear the regular condo stops I bruise.

 

Not sure what you mean by girth issue: not enough girth for the condom or too much?

[Bristolius]

Regular condom does not go all the way down, Magnum does. Wear the regular condo stops I bruise.

 

Not sure what you mean by girth issue: not enough girth for the condom or too much?

 

Too much! Too tight won't roll.

 

There are Magnum large and magnum extra large. Magnum XL. Even less tight than Magnum large. More room works better.

Edited January 29, 2013 by Bristolius

[Babolat]

Too much! Too tight won't roll.

 

There are Magnum large and magnum extra large. Magnum XL. Even less tight than Magnum large. More room works better.

 

Hmmm..I never paid attention while buying these at the drug store..good to know. I will look to see what I have. Whatever I am buying rolls on OK, does not hurt or feel too tight.