Abi2012 Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Me and my husband have been together for a while now. I knew he etched porn but him hidin it from me made me so paranoid at hat he was hiding from me. Maybe it was more than just porn. So I spoke to him and told him that I knew he couldn't help himself as I'm not always going to be with him al the time. I told him not to hide it from me or delete histories just to have munis at ease he wasn't playing away. I've old him hat I do watch porn which I do but not as regular and intricate as him. Now when I find myself going though his history I feel like bursting into tears because the thins he searches such as legging and high heals makes me feel like I'm not the only one he would be seen like this as he loves me wearing them. But yet he's going to wank over other girls in leggings and high heals. I understand theirs no feelings involved from him But as muh as I love him as want to be understanding I can't help but feel he's addicted to porn and still hides it fr me certain times because I've said he's a porn addict. What do I do now? On one hand I understand te need to Watch por but on te other I'm crying inside constantly. Please help.
mavendark Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Me and my husband have been together for a while now. I knew he etched porn but him hidin it from me made me so paranoid at hat he was hiding from me. Maybe it was more than just porn. So I spoke to him and told him that I knew he couldn't help himself as I'm not always going to be with him al the time. I told him not to hide it from me or delete histories just to have munis at ease he wasn't playing away. I've old him hat I do watch porn which I do but not as regular and intricate as him. Now when I find myself going though his history I feel like bursting into tears because the thins he searches such as legging and high heals makes me feel like I'm not the only one he would be seen like this as he loves me wearing them. But yet he's going to wank over other girls in leggings and high heals. I understand theirs no feelings involved from him But as muh as I love him as want to be understanding I can't help but feel he's addicted to porn and still hides it fr me certain times because I've said he's a porn addict. What do I do now? On one hand I understand te need to Watch por but on te other I'm crying inside constantly. Please help. How often is he watching porn? Every day? Twice a day? Three times a day? How often are you guys having sex? 2 times a week? once a day?
Author Abi2012 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 We have a healthy sex life of not everyday it will be the next day at least 7/8 times a week. On a Sunday he says it's sex day and well ed up sometimes having sex all day. Since agreeing he can watch it he's started talking about it a lot more during sex. Now don't get me wrong I love it when he talks to me hole we have sex just not about porn constantly. He watches porn id say every other day sometimes won't miss a day Out. am I just not right in the head or
in_absentia Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 I don't get it... you watch porn so you must be okay with it as a concept, but you're upset that he's watching it? If I were him I wouldn't be okay with my partner wanting to see my porn browsing history: that stuff, for me, is personal and when I want to share it with my partner I will, but I don't want to feel like they're analysing everything I watch! You do need to work on your confidence levels.
Author Abi2012 Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 It's not that I mind him watching it. I just feel like he's watching it too much. I don't want to go through his histories to see what he's watching but at the same time I don't Like things being hidden from me makes me paranoid. I do understand the needs to watch porn bit does every guy watch it alot
mavendark Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 It's not that I mind him watching it. I just feel like he's watching it too much. I don't want to go through his histories to see what he's watching but at the same time I don't Like things being hidden from me makes me paranoid. I do understand the needs to watch porn bit does every guy watch it alot Do you think he's obsessed/addicted to watching porn? Or do you think that your feelings are just a manifestations of your insecurities/inconfidence? How does he talk about porn with you when he's having sex with you? Does he mention new things he wants to try?
Keenly Posted January 30, 2013 Posted January 30, 2013 I do understand the needs to watch porn bit does every guy watch it alot Yes. It's perfectly normal. If he has sex with you ALL day on sundays..... I'd say this problem only lies in your mind.
Author Abi2012 Posted January 30, 2013 Author Posted January 30, 2013 I do feel like he's addicted to it. Every chance he gets and I'm not in the room hell be doing it. I wake up in the morning sometimes and he's doing it. While I'm asleep sometimes hell be doing it. Even though he's watched it for years and so have I it seems like me saying I understood he had to do it was like a go go go for him. Even though I have spoken to him about it and just says he enjoys porn more than I do and he's not an addict. When we have sex he does love talking about things hell see in porn which is ok I don't mind to a certain extent but not everything we har sex. I wore some really tight leggings and high heals for him a few weeks ago and he loved the way my body looked in them and constantly complimented me. Yet since then he's constantly watching porn videos/pictures associated with leggings and heels and it just feels like their should be certain things he likes about me and me only rather than taking something he likes about me and then watching porn in comparison. Does this even make sense or do I sound like a ****ing lunatic. Lol Ironic I'm sitting in the bathroom crying right now The leggings And heals I have on now obviously isn't anything special.
Zidonuke Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 If my husband watched porn without me wanting him to, I would get a divorce. There are plenty of good guys who would give up porn to have a woman like you. Leggings and high heels AND porn? You give him way too much.
Inviv_girl Posted January 31, 2013 Posted January 31, 2013 Maybe you should try wearing legging and stuffs .. Seriously you guys need to talk about it, tell him what upsetting you and be open to him.
subliminal Posted February 1, 2013 Posted February 1, 2013 If my husband watched porn without me wanting him to, I would get a divorce. There are plenty of good guys who would give up porn to have a woman like you. Leggings and high heels AND porn? You give him way too much. i can agree that if you dont like it and cant get over him doing it and it bothers you enough to tell him to stop and he wont, yea thats grounds for divorce. dont get me wrong, its not all his fault in that case, it would be just as much you as him. id get over it if i were her. take it as a compliment that he loves to have sex with you, this may be his way of showing you he loves you. people all have different ways. i watch porn and my fiance doesnt care, she just gets mad that i waste perfectly good sperm since we are trying to get pregnate, so i rarely do it because we do it almost every day. getting off to me is something that i sorta need to relax, so if im not getting it from her, i will jack off. there have been times where i just dont feel like it and will miss a day or 2 with her or we are fighting but for the most part i want sex every day. its not always just about me either, i feel a huge boost in my ego and confidence when i please my fiance sexually. it can be addicting but if its not hurting anyone i dont see it as a problem. op should really stop feeling insecure, i know when i watch porn i look for the women that look like my fiance and when i cum im thinking of cumming inside her, porn is just a visual thing for me once im almost there i am more mental. have you considered making a porn with him? maybe that would be something for him to watch? just remember that if he watched other porn after that it probably isnt because hes bored with it, just that he like a little variety. just be glad hes not cheating on you. id encourage him and open yourself up a little more sexually, im sure youre perfectly fine, dont let it bother you, we are men and we are different.
Author Abi2012 Posted February 3, 2013 Author Posted February 3, 2013 i can agree that if you dont like it and cant get over him doing it and it bothers you enough to tell him to stop and he wont, yea thats grounds for divorce. dont get me wrong, its not all his fault in that case, it would be just as much you as him. id get over it if i were her. take it as a compliment that he loves to have sex with you, this may be his way of showing you he loves you. people all have different ways. i watch porn and my fiance doesnt care, she just gets mad that i waste perfectly good sperm since we are trying to get pregnate, so i rarely do it because we do it almost every day. getting off to me is something that i sorta need to relax, so if im not getting it from her, i will jack off. there have been times where i just dont feel like it and will miss a day or 2 with her or we are fighting but for the most part i want sex every day. its not always just about me either, i feel a huge boost in my ego and confidence when i please my fiance sexually. it can be addicting but if its not hurting anyone i dont see it as a problem. op should really stop feeling insecure, i know when i watch porn i look for the women that look like my fiance and when i cum im thinking of cumming inside her, porn is just a visual thing for me once im almost there i am more mental. have you considered making a porn with him? maybe that would be something for him to watch? just remember that if he watched other porn after that it probably isnt because hes bored with it, just that he like a little variety. just be glad hes not cheating on you. id encourage him and open yourself up a little more sexually, im sure youre perfectly fine, dont let it bother you, we are men and we are different. That's what he says its when he gets bored but insecùe me starts thinking he's bored of me. In the time we've been together we have been pretty wild When it comes to sex and still are always trying different and exciting stuff. We have made a few videos and send him naughty Pics to. I know what u mean he's not cheating that's te thing I keep saying to myself. I do appreciate the time u took to write the post and appreciate a mans point of view to. It's certainly made me see things slightly more from his Point of view. Cheers
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