Gabe Logan Posted August 25, 2004 Posted August 25, 2004 Hi all, you may or may not remember me, but this here is my thread from before http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?postid=278848#post278848 Together for 5 1/2 years then broken up for 3 months, now we're back together, as of last night?!?!?! She was seeing this other kid, she was attracted to him, they slept together, etc...etc... I was hurt, sick, heart broken, the whole 9 but I slept with another girl while we were broken up also, but I wasn't about to make her my girlfriend, as my girl and the dude she was with were almost boyfriend and girlfriend. Anyway, I wanted my girl back so bad before and she wasn't coming back. There was nothing I could do. I cried forever. We were broken up for three months or so. Honestly I couldn't cry anymore, I was back to my normal self. I was doing stuff on my own, completly over the fact that I was now single, and I was running with it. I'd go out everynight and do my thing without her. HOWEVER I still wanted her back. Over her or not, I still wanted her. During the three month break up, we would hang out, we went to six flags, she took my truck (If you read the link to my thread post from up top you'll see what I mean) we took my boat out etc...etc...all while we were broken up, we were doing more things then when we were together, we went out the other night, we got wasted, we went back to my house, and we passed out. We woke up around 5:30, and slept togther....God I missed that, I also thought that that was never gonna happen again, but it did, I figured that was an excellent start. Anyway, her parents came in from Conneticut and she was staying at there beach house for a few days. While she was there, I talked to her and I told her that my feelings weren't hurt anymore, and If she still wanted to take a break and try and miss me now, then that was cool. (I tried so hard to show her how much I love her for the past 3 months that If I told you all what I did, you'd get sick.) So, I felt as though if she still wanted to see were things were going with that other kid, then go for it now, But she said no way. She said that she was straight with that. I asked her how she was supposed miss me if we keep on talking (you could see we were getting back together) and in the end of that conversation, we left it that we weren't going to talk to each other until Thursday (Tomorrow.) We have plans to go out tomorrow night, and we weren't gonna talk until tomorrow morning. Anyway. We went 1 1/2 days without talking, and then she called me. Conversation went on and she told me she wanted to take me back. It brought tears to my eyes, I was shaking cause I didn't know what to do with myself. I was so happy, but she said she still wanted to be friends with the kid she was with. So I asked her. Now that we're back together, what do I do about your attraction to that other kid and the fact that you want to be his friend but you're attracted to him. I asked her if she was attracted to me and she told me that the attraction to him was all new, and the attraction to me is a different attraction. She told me that it's not the kind of attraction that you get butterflies when you see the other person, but I said that's simply because we've been together for almost 6 years, and she agreed. She also said that she couldn't wait to tell me that she was going to give me a second chance, and when she told me she said she thought she'd be happier. She said she was happy, but she thought she'd be happier. All this said, we went back to a normal conversation, we talked about Thursday, said we loved each other and that was that. I talked to her last night again, and then she told me that she already accepted an invitation to a Wedding with him for Saturday. I was pissed, but I told her that If we were back together, that I should trust her like I always had, and let her go to it. She agreed, and then we hung up. Where is all of this leading? Is everything ok between us now? I want us to work out so much, but the fact that I was completly over her and now were back is confusing me!? I accept her relationship with the other kid because I had to, but why does she still want to be his friend? She was so in love with me before, will she love me like that again? Now it seems like I love her more. Maybe I'm feeling so confused because this was done over the phone and I haven't seen her yet? If I see her, will that seal everything? What's going on, is this gonna work?
shamen Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Any updates to report? I hope, as it sounds like you want it to, that it is working out...
staceyrenea Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 I know exactly how you feel about this girl, because I felt the same way about a past boyfriend and the same thing happened. I think that she really does love you, but at one time she made the decision to leave you because she felt like she found someone better. What if she does this again when she meets someone else? You really have to protect yourself in these types of situations. I can tell that you love her very much, but sometimes you cannot give into your weaknesses. For example, alcoholics love to drink, but is it really good for them? Would this be a "quick fix" or something that is going to make you happy in the future? You do not deserve to be second best and that is what she made you for those three months. You should find someone who is going to care about you and consider you as important to them. I don't want to crush your hopes, but you really need to watch out for her wondering eyes.
prevch Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 my girl did this same thing. Maybe I should just forget her completely.
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