mjvs Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 I everyone, i am gone sum this up real as short as i can, i really do not know what to do or to expect. Beginning last year i met a girl, but my feelings was very unsure of her, but later on i start loving her and always thinking about her, then i left her cause i felt that i was being smothered and was thinking she is not the one. we got back together again a few days later, but as time past i again start feeling the same way so i left her again. i was also not that effectionate with her as i should have been. So i begged her again to take me back and then last year beginning of november i left her again cause of the same reason, but this time it did hurt me a lot my hart said no but my mind said yes, so i listened to my mind. The hole time i was thinking about her, the hole time i was missing her but was to proud to phone her and talk to her, i was the hole time single and did not even go on dates nothing, because i was thinking of her. So when i got back from leave i decided to give her a message on fb, but as soon as i got to her profile i saw she was in n relationship with someone else, it was only a month and she got someone else, so still i left her a message telling her i am sorry and that if she can forgive me and that's that. But then she asked if we can see each other cause she had questions to ask, so i went. We spoke the hole day about our past relationship and so on. Then i asked her if i can make it up to her in any way as possible so then we decided to be just friends, i told her that, i am not asking her to leave the new guy at all, but just to give me a chance to make it up to her in any way possible even just as a friend. She said that if she seas i am not messing with her and can give her the emotional support and love i say i have for her, then we can think about being more than friends. Keep in mind i broke her heart, i left her when she needed me the most i can not forgive myself, i really love her so much i even just want to be her friend to make it up to her, to make her happy because she deserves it. I always thought that its about spoiling her and giving her gifts and about having money, but i realised its not that its more, its LOVE! I did let go of my snobbish ways i did grew up. I really love her with all my heart. Is it to late? Did i really mess up this time?
TaraMaiden Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You're a commitment-phobe. I wouldn't trust you with a barge pole. How old are you guys....?
FailedFirstLove Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 Did you really grow up? How can she possibly know? You could be wanting what you don't have anymore... Which is her... To say u want to be friends to make her happy... I really think that's for your own good. You can't be single and still have her at the same time. I don't know about this, you could easily leave her again like all the other times.
flitzanu Posted January 28, 2013 Posted January 28, 2013 You're a commitment-phobe. I wouldn't trust you with a barge pole. How old are you guys....? hahah, barge pole. i think it was pretty clear, OP, when you said right away you didn't "feel it" for her. sounds like you didn't actually want to be with her, but you were in love with the idea of having her. i'd tell you to let her go, because you've already dumped her like 4 times for the exact same reason. chances are you're just going to do it again once you get her, you won't want her anymore.
Author mjvs Posted January 29, 2013 Author Posted January 29, 2013 Thanks for all of your inputs. lets just make things clear, non of you guys know me personally, so you cant judge me just of one post, BUT i know i messed up so its fine on how you criticise me i deserve it. Let me talk a bit of the past, i grew up very poor, so i were not always this kind of person you did read about in the post. Long story short, got a great job lots of money start looking good exec. So i became a snob, thought i can do anything, buy anything, get any girl exec. I always did put the Lord first, but then i got lost in everything. So after everything i went on leave and went back home, there my father, mother and sister did let me realize where i am from what type of person i turned into where my roots are. I changed everything, got the Lord back into my life, stopped with all of my stupidness. Never in my life i left a girl she was the first, one of my ex-s moved away and one left me for my best friend and then she left him again for someone else, one was just out for partying every night, the other one left me cause her parent's said she must get a man who has money. So i never was like i was, keep on changing myself for my ex-s never knowing i am changing into a different person. So if you know me in person and know my past, then you can judge me Taramaiden.
LduKaZ Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 No one is judging who you are as a person, but who you are in this relationship. If I was you, Id leave her alone and let her be happy. You had your chance, give her hers. Chances are you just want her so much now because she is unavailable. Think about all the reasons you had for dumping her. All the things you didn't like about her. Do you really want that back?? Will you be able to see past that for the rest of your life??? It sounds to me like you need to give yourself some time bro. Even if she takes you back, she will never be able to trust you fully because of what you've done. You're gonna have her spying on you and questioning you constantly. Think about it.
flitzanu Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Thanks for all of your inputs. lets just make things clear, non of you guys know me personally, so you cant judge me just of one post, BUT i know i messed up so its fine on how you criticise me i deserve it. Let me talk a bit of the past, i grew up very poor, so i were not always this kind of person you did read about in the post. Long story short, got a great job lots of money start looking good exec. So i became a snob, thought i can do anything, buy anything, get any girl exec. I always did put the Lord first, but then i got lost in everything. So after everything i went on leave and went back home, there my father, mother and sister did let me realize where i am from what type of person i turned into where my roots are. I changed everything, got the Lord back into my life, stopped with all of my stupidness. Never in my life i left a girl she was the first, one of my ex-s moved away and one left me for my best friend and then she left him again for someone else, one was just out for partying every night, the other one left me cause her parent's said she must get a man who has money. So i never was like i was, keep on changing myself for my ex-s never knowing i am changing into a different person. So if you know me in person and know my past, then you can judge me Taramaiden. what does that have to do with this ex girlfriend? you still dumped her multiple times because you decided you didn't feel it and didn't want to be with her. what does that have to do with money and religion?
geegirl Posted January 29, 2013 Posted January 29, 2013 Thanks for all of your inputs. lets just make things clear, non of you guys know me personally, so you cant judge me just of one post, BUT i know i messed up so its fine on how you criticise me i deserve it. Let me talk a bit of the past, i grew up very poor, so i were not always this kind of person you did read about in the post. Long story short, got a great job lots of money start looking good exec. So i became a snob, thought i can do anything, buy anything, get any girl exec. I always did put the Lord first, but then i got lost in everything. So after everything i went on leave and went back home, there my father, mother and sister did let me realize where i am from what type of person i turned into where my roots are. I changed everything, got the Lord back into my life, stopped with all of my stupidness. Never in my life i left a girl she was the first, one of my ex-s moved away and one left me for my best friend and then she left him again for someone else, one was just out for partying every night, the other one left me cause her parent's said she must get a man who has money. So i never was like i was, keep on changing myself for my ex-s never knowing i am changing into a different person. So if you know me in person and know my past, then you can judge me Taramaiden. Put the Lord aside, growing up poor and all of that. What has that got to do with dumping her multiple times? It has nothing to do with religion, money or snobbery. You are not emotionally healthy. Leave her alone. Please let her find someone that can give her a committed and fulfilling relationship. Love doesn't keep on dumping someone. I've dated your type. Drove me up the wall. When you have her, you don't want her. When you don't want her, you want her. Seriously, figure out the disconnect within yourself before you drag someone into that dysfunction. 1
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